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11.04.2018 Opinion

Your Happiness And Success Depends Entirely On You Not People

By Counselore Adofoli
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There is one statement which always strikes me "Happiness is a choice"; and I believe there are a lot of people out there who may think otherwise about that. How are you supposed to be happy when people do things intentionally to hurt you? How are you supposed to be happy when people around you look for the least opportunity to bring you down?

How are you supposed to be happy when you don't have control over people's actions? These are few of the questions many people ask themselves. We live in a dark world, a world filled with negatives, and the only way you can produce light is to be positive. Being negative will only lead to stress, depression, frustration, anger, bitterness, regret, disappointment and eventually lead you to death.

People's actions will run you down every day but it's your task to recharge yourself with a positive mindset. You have to love who you are and love the people who love you. But never spend your energy hating people who hate you, you should rather be inspired by them. I know how sad it is to see people jealous of you and intimidated by you so much so that they only see negative things about you when they know absolutely nothing about you.

It is discouraging to see people doubt you, more especially when it is those close to you; but you don't have to be sad, instead let that be a motivation to succeed.

Take charge of your emotions and pay no attention to people's praise or blame. Words are powerful; they can make you six feet tall and two centimeters short.

Your mind is like a plant that needs constant watering. If you want it to blossom then feed it with pure water but if you want it to rot, then fill it with polluted water. You have the power to make yourself happy based on what you accept. What you accept becomes who you are. You don't become what people say or think.

For those of you looking for helpers to become what God want you to be, please stop. Stop wasting your time, stop expecting so much from people for such expectations are what lead us into depression, etc. Rather ask God for help, for He is the one who has given you this assignment. Man didn't give you this task and therefore might not be willing to help you; this also makes it easy for them to doubt you.

Concentrate on the little you have, develop yourself and as soon as you start doing well, people, helpers will come with the help you want, people will begin to believe in your dream. I have learnt one thing from the plant, it doesn't worry or dream of the bee, which is a helper it needs to produce fruit; it rather focuses on blossoming and the bee comes along.

In conclusion "God is our safe place and our strength. He is always our help when we are in trouble" - Psalm 46:1 (NLV).

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