A man's gift maketh room for him, and bringeth him before great men. (Proverbs 18:16)
Do you really desire a healthy marriage? Are you really sure? Are you ready to give it all it will take? If you answered yes to all these questions, then let me tell you some things you must give to your spouse if you really want a great change.
1.Your Heart: Most marriages started by people having a deep affection for each other, which they call love. It grew so deep that they felt they could not live their lives without one another, hence, they got married. Unfortunately for many, that is where the good story ends. Immediately after “yes I do”, the heart is allowed to wander away from each other, and married couples hardly miss each other's presence. In fact, they do feel lonely despite being in the presence of each other.
2. Your Hands : Giving a helping hand to your spouse is another thing you should do. You are joined to each other to fulfill God's purpose for your life, you are to stand with, to defend, protect and support your spouse. Men most especially should know that, house chores and baby-sitting are not labeled “for women only”. Husbands should give their support in this regard as, there is no way she will do all the house chores- cook, take care of the “kids”, then you the biggest “kid” and still have enough strength to be your lover girl in bed.
3. Eyes : Find pleasure in looking at each other; looking straight into the eyes of your mate when he or she talks shows how much you value him or her. Men should avoid “wandering eyes”, avoid looking lustfully at other women outside; there is nothing they have that is not available in your beloved wife.
4. Mouth : Give your mouth to your spouse. Talk kindly to him or her, let your mouth build your house; let it bring peace to your home and joy to your spouse. Speak to encourage, motivate, praise, build, and make your spouse happy. Speak the truth always, no slander, no curse or abusive words; let your mouth be a blessing. Colossians 4:6.
5. Ear : Always find time to listen to your spouse. Husbands most especially should know that women love to be listened to. The most quiet of all women will become a talkative of some sort when she is with the person she loves and trust. They cannot just stop talking and they love it when they have somebody that listens to them. Everything is important to be told as far as a wife is concerned once she has a husband that will listen. Learn to listen to your wife, even if you think what she is saying is not important. If it is important for her to tell you, then it must be important for you to hear.
Bisi adewale is an international conference speaker on marriage and family life, the author of these best selling books: Secrets of an Irresistible Wife , Hot and Sizzling Marriage , 20 Highways to a successful Marriage , Before you say I Do , and more than 60 other best selling books on marriage and family life.
He is the president of Family Booster Ministry and College of Marital Success (CMS) (Africa's Premier Marriage Institute), Host of Family Booster Moments on TV, watched in many countries across the globe.
Bisi Adewale also hosts the popular Lagos Couples' Conference and breakthrough for singles' summit
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