BITTER TRUTH ON MARRIAGE (Part 22) Married Man
“Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the ungodly nor stands in the path of sinners nor sits in the seat of the scornful.
But his delight is in the law of the Lord and in his law he meditates day and night.
He shall be like the tree planted in the rivers of water that brings forth it fruits in its season. Its leaf also shall not wither and whatsoever he does shall prosper”. (Psalm 1:1-3)
A blessed mandoes not walk in the path of the scornful or with those who mock the word of God. Many marriages will always have problems because the man has not carefully understood that if my marriage will work, I must first learn how to connect with God; how to submit to God; how to truly receive from God and then pass it to my home. A man that is not in submission to God is a problem to himself and his family because he is not hearing from God. He is drawing from his flesh. Essentially, you draw from something to manifest what you do. So, if you are not drawing from God, you are reaching into your soul and drawing and using it to manifest. It is very important for a man to learn how to submit to the leading of the holy spirit.
“As many that are led by the holy spirit, they are the sons of God” (Romans 8:14)
So, when you learn to submit to God, then your wife submits to you and you do not end up mistreating your wife and attracting curse to your life. You will be cursed if you mistreat your wife. The Bible says 'how can you dishonour what is part of your body?' So, a blessed man does not dishonour his wife and mistreat her. He realizes that they are one flesh. If the man wants to be given respect and honour, he has to first honour and respect God. Many have cursed their own future because they mistreated the person who left her father and mother to come and live with them.
However, many times, what the woman needs is a reaction to what the man has been doing. So, you are tampering with a curse if you mistreat your wife. Stop comparing her with others. “This person is better than you. Look at that lady. Look at the way she carries herself. Look at those people's marriage.” You have got to understand that if that marriage is good and that woman is nice, her husband is doing something.
Everyone has a way of entrance to heart. We all have ways which we can be scoped. Some people like petting. Others like money. Some like actualization. Seek to know what your partner likes. Some people like flowers. Some like surprises. Some people don't want to see flowers. They say “Show me the money. If you don't buy flower, just give me the money.”
God tells us the kind of a blessed man that he seeks. He doesn't stand. He doesn't walk with the scornful, the sinners and the ungodly.
Deacon ALBINUS CHIEDU
Coordinator, MARRIAGE CAN WORK PROJECT
...TO BE CONTINUED (Questions Are Welcome)