Seek Help! Abuse Isn't Normal In Marriage

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Abuse is not normal in marriage, seek help.

Marriage was instituted by God with an agenda of love, joy and peace. For two people to come together with one mind and push His will. In doing so, he purposed that these two people would experience inexplicable joy and happiness and fulfillment. Marriage wasn’t instituted to suppress or oppress anyone or to let them live in bondage. The instructions of God to couples are to enhance the marriage experience when obeyed and to ensure smooth running of the institution. Submission and love are two traits that when applied in every institution, would foster prosperity and progress. Whether it is marriage or business or school. So for God to command it in marriage and not make it optional, it means He wants to ensure that all marriages are fruitful.

The unfortunate thing is that, the devil has a counterfeit of everything God does or says. Many people over the years have abused the institutions of marriage and used it to project their personal agendas. However, we can be sure and certain that God does not in anyway condone such negativity and abuse of knowledge.

Dear wife, it’s totally unacceptable for your husband to abuse you. Be it mentally, physically or emotionally. You need to seek help. Taking to someone about it doesn’t mean you are being disrespectful or not being submissive. Submission does not connote death or hurt. Don’t accept abuse. Don’t cover it up. It’s ok to tell a trusted person. You will be doing him good and saving yourself. Don’t condone evil and call it submission. It’s not right for you to be selling your husband’s weaknesses to the whole world, don’t get me wrong. But finding a good Christian counselor or Pastor to discuss abusive issues is wisdom. By this time in your marriage, you must have someone you talk to or take advise from. Commit it to the Lord in prayer and step out. Sometimes, it’s your silence that feeds the abuse. Speak out and call for help. He’s not abusing you because you erred. Even if you erred, you don’t deserve to be abused. Why must someone beat you when you do wrong, then why don’t you make it a rule for the two of you so you also beat him when he does wrong?

Dear Husband, it’s demonic, archaic and sinful to beat your wife or suppress her or oppress her. It’s totally wrong to control her under the guise of being the head of the family. Headship is not dictatorship. You must learn how to be a true leader. True leaders serve and win the trust of their followers. Respect comes naturally to true leaders, it can’t be forced. Christ loved the church by sacrificing himself for us not by killing the church for himself. That’s the standard of love you are expected to show. Being the head means you are fully responsible for the whole household, spiritually, emotionally, physically. Being the head means if a tear drops in your home, God will ask you. You have a very high standard to meet in judgment. You have to pray for grace as a husband because your work is very big.

If you have a strong wife, suppression is not the key. Show yourself strong on your leadership role and she will mellow when it comes to you. She will follow your leadership and use her strengths to push you higher and help you expand your territories. Your wife is God’s creation, you will answer to Him for everything you do to her. He is watching.

Dear wife, if you are being abused, don’t believe it’s normal and it will stop so you must endure it. God doesn’t condone it. Find help. Call someone today!