If it please the king, let there go a royal commandment from him, and let it be written among the laws of the Persians and the Medes, that it be not altered, That Vashti come no more before king Ahasuerus; and let the king give her royal estate unto another that is better than her.
Reading from verse 1, Queen Vashti was adored by her husband but she took his love for granted; she did things she wasn't supposed to do and even disrespected the king in the presence of his subordinates. She was eventually exiled and a new queen (Esther) was selected.
There are a lot of us with the Vashti spirit and attitude. Yes! We take everything for granted; we are ungrateful; neither do we appreciate what people go through to make us happy. Because of our ungratefulness, some people have become wicked and heartless. A lot of children have suffered the negative impacts of broken homes just because their parents felt too proud Being Vashti is not the problem but the impact of your actions on others should be your headache.
In our marriages and relationships, job places and even friendships, some people feel "too important" and act as if it's the other party that needs them. Some feel without them, the world will be at a standstill; and Some even feel that without them, groups and individuals seize to function.
Due to this pride, they act anyhow towards loved ones. Even when people have sacrificed everything for them, they make them look stupid by demanding more. They hurt loved ones and still expect an apology/pampering from the very people they hurt. Even when they've opened up and told them their actions are hurting, they tell them " this is how I was created so u either deal with me or leave". Yooo...we hear.
The truth is that just as u can live without someone, others can live without you. The very company you think can't survive without you, will continue to function if you die! Your husband/wife will be single without u but he/she may even be better without you. In conclusion, no matter the role you play in someone's life, just as they need you, you also need them. There's therefore no need in punishing them for making your happiness a priority.
Instead of hurting them, appreciate the efforts of people who go through hell to make your life better. The little efforts you don't appreciate, someone is dying to have. If you keep on being ungrateful and disrespectful, they may give up on you and look elsewhere. So long as there's a Vashti, there will always be an Esther who will take over and make things better in the life of the King.
Kill the Vashti in you!!
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