A man is born strong and competent. He has great emotional fulfilment as he pursues a woman because success shows his competency. A woman is however born beautiful to attract men. The natural order is that it is men who hunt for women.
Today however, we see more and more women hunting for men. The talk about women equality and empowerment has gingered women on. After all, “body no be fire wood”. Everyone needs love because that is how we are made.
You must also appreciate that what a man can do, a woman also can do and sometimes better.
When a woman goes for hunting, her scheming are so subtle and deceptive that in the end, she makes the man hunt for her.
What women look for
A woman looks at the way you carry yourself, especially your self-confidence. You must take good care of yourself, including things like what you wear; belt, shoes and hairstyle which many men do not pay particular attention to.
She looks at your attitude in general. You must know how to take charge and handle difficult situations wisely without giving up because security is important to women.
A woman will look for integrity. If you talk of wanting to marry but do nothing, it shows you are not serious, most women will avoid you.
She expects loyalty. She must feel you will not have her just for your personal benefit like sex or be nice to her only when you want something from her. She also expects you will not be afraid to share your fears and concerns.
You must be able to cheer her up even in difficult situations by looking at the lighter side of life.
Fun is extremely important in relationships because it has many emotional, mental and physical benefits.
A woman looks for a man who has the ability to provide for her future needs. Women see money as a medium of security. She must be sure there is enough for her basic needs.
There are many men who have most of the qualities mentioned.
Why would a woman hunt down a particular man?
Psychologists believe that as we grow up, we develop a “love man”, which are images of people we admire like our parents, into our sub-conscious mind. This may explain why sometimes you meet someone and you feel you have known him. Some call it love at first sight.
The hunt strategy
She finds a way to get your attention. She puts her best foot forward in dressing, regular greetings or sitting close to you at social functions.
She may ask you to do simple tasks, including asking for a lift. Some send text messages on festive days. Some send gifts. Once she strikes acquaintance, she finds time to get in touch just to talk. Soon you may become good friends. Then she expects you to propose.
If that is not happening, she puts in coated questions like “how do you feel about me?” or “where is our friendship going?”. She turns the tables on the man who then proposes. She may intentionally express surprise and even some hesitation. Some call it “woman do”.
She makes you believe you hunted her when in fact it was her idea from day one.
Should a woman hunt?
This is the 21st century when men match women in every human activity. There are far more eligible women than men. The relationship market has become very competitive. If you just sit expecting someone to come, time may pass by you and you will be no match for the younger and more beautiful girls. Time to get involved is now.
The only way to play the game is to get to the field. If you find a man you admire and not taken, go after him and pursue him relentlessly.
Have someone you have chosen, not one who chose you.
It is better to try and fail than to live the rest of your life regretting about your failure to get your heart’s desire.
Put aside your ego and traditional norms. Hunt for your heart’s desire. You will be glad you did.