Finding common ground on a shaky foundation can be likened to building a house on quicksand. Understanding your partner (especially in times of great misunderstanding) will literally save your relationship and/or marriage. When pride, malice and anger sit heavy on your heart, there’s bound to be strife and unresolved issues. Forgive, but most importantly, always be willing to see things from your partner’s perspective.
More often than not, a lot of us place our egos far above our partner’s feelings & emotions and that’s wrong. I’ll admit, my pride and selfish behavior almost cost me losing the most beautiful partner any man could ever wish for, but not everyone is lucky enough to get a 2nd chance at love. Not every partner is as forgiving as mine. So don’t let pride ruin your relationship, and don’t keep malice no matter how offended you may be.
As much as you can, always try to work on your character-flaws. Sometimes, the flaws you never knew you had could spring up during a heated argument. How you handle disagreements will determine how you strengthen your bond with your lover. Be attentive while listening to your partner’s concerns and please, be slow to anger. Don’t get defensive when your partner’s telling you how he/she feels or what they’re going through. Don’t switch it around and make it all about you. It isn’t about you! It’s about your partner - always remember that. Listen with love and ask intelligent questions to enable you better understand where your partner’s coming from and what they’re truly feeling.
How you see things is important, but how your partner sees things should always be priority.
- With Love, From Love.