All across the globe, there is no doubt that the 14th February Valentine's day celebration is one of the important days most young people and lovers look out for.
The reasons for the high value placed on this day vary from person to person but generally, it is seen as a day where the candles of love are lighted, bonds of love are made stronger and milestones of love are celebrated either publicly or privately.
In the cause of these celebrations, it has been observed with keen interest that most people commit some life-threatening mistakes of their lives which could be avoided. In this write-up, l have identified about seven basic things an individual could avoid during this year's Valentine's day celebration provided the individual desire to move along the parts of destiny.
1. Do not go out with a person you have very little knowledge of.
It is a common thing for most people to plan their first-time dates for Valentine's day. They see it as a good opportunity to meet that newly found love. In as much as the idea in totality is not bad, l encourage you to take caution. There are people who take advantage of some of these festive occasions to harm their victims.
2. Be careful what you eat or drink during the Val's day. Remember getting drunk puts you in a vulnerable position.
Many women become pregnant or are raped without having any knowledge of who might have done that to them. They now live in the world of speculation and assumption thinking that it could be one person or the other whom she meet last before the incident. This is what l call enjoying the sweetness of bitter wine. Most often these ladies get drunk at parties, outings, clubs among others and their friends and to a very large extent host descend on them to harvest the fruits in between their legs.
Young lady, as a Nigerian will say " make you shine your eyes ooooo".
Valentine's day will come and go but the scar of rape will linger on forever.
3. Do not make yourself a sex machine on a Val's day.
If you turn yourself into a sex machine l can assure you that you will have people to service it and also break it down beyond repairs.
Do not reduce your knowledge of Valentine's day to a sex show. Have value.
4. Do not be forced to buy a gift for anyone on Val's day especially if what you are buying is not in your planned budget or beyond your financial strength.
Please who made the rule that on Valentine's day you are to buy a gift for someone?
Who said at all cost someone should buy you a gift?
Is Valentine's day the only opportunity to show my love?
Do l need to force myself to show you love even if I do not have the means?
Humbly try to answer these questions for yourself. Do not allow the systems of these times and people's unscientific philosophies to put any pressure on you.
Be yourself and live in your own world. If you have the means fine. If you do not have the means, please do not kill yourself.
5. Try not to have sex on Valentine's day.
I know you will disagree with me on this. But it's a simple straight forward advice. If you take it l can assure you, It will save you from lots of problems. Do not have sex on the Valentine's day.
6. Do not pick up a quarrel or break up with your lover all because he or she did not do something society expects him or her to do for you on Valentine's day.
You may be asking why shouldn't l? But the question is, why should you?
At times we are tempted to judge the strength of our relationships by the philosophies surrounding the "lovers day". Build your own philosophies of life and live by them. Do not rush to say it's over.
7. Do not forget that our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ will reward us according to what we do here on earth.
The wise King Solomon puts it this way:
Ecclesiastes 11:9 KJV
Rejoice, O young man, in thy youth; and let thy heart cheer thee in the days of thy youth, and walk in the ways of thine heart, and in the sight of thine eyes: but know thou, that for all these things God will bring thee into judgment.
Young man or woman, no person can and is preventing you from having fun and doing whatever you want to do. Never. You have the freedom to do whatever you desire but let be quick to add that the Lord through King Solomon is saying for all that you do, you will be judged for your actions.
If God will bring us into judgment then l advise you to do what is in line with His word. The very first thing that is in line with God's will and word is to accept the Lord Jesus Christ as your personal Lord and Savior.
As is mostly said in our local Ghanaian parlance, " prevention is better than cure". I foresee you committing the age-long mistake so therefore l have given out the above 7 reminders. It's my heart desire that you find time to reflect over them and take caution from it.
The author of this piece is a seasoned youth and family life educator with several books and publications to his credit.