There Is No Shame For A Young  Person To Stay Without Dating

It is either you are “a fearoo” “kolo”“regressive” or a cocktail of these terms, else why would a young man stay on the margins of singleness whiles young confiscated ladies are abundantly in the midst itching to date? This is the rhetorical question many understandably pose in that; it is only natural for a young person to have a desire to be in a relationship with the opposite sex. So why would a young man stay single if not for his incompetence in proposals?

Yes, I agree some of these desires are natural and almost 90percent of the youth succumb to these desires, eve though admittedly, not everyone's proposal gets accepted. Yielding to these desires most importantly, however, are matters of personal choices. Many have struck gold via early relationships and many ladies in particular have continuously rubbed it on the faces of their colleagues who decidedly focused their attention in their youth on other things and are yet to marry. They say dating early gives you the exposure and the needed experience during marriage, granted! But it is also equally fair to underscore the fact that inasmuch as some people have struck gold eventually through early relationships, many more on the contrary have emerged out of the same with complete regrets. We would like to leave the latter scenario, though, as matters presently stand.

But more significantly ought to be recognizing the fact that dating, although the root of many sins, isn’t sinful and any attempt to judge anyone who decides to date is hypocritical. In different terms also, staying single, albeit a safe way to avoid many sins, doesn’t make you righteous. So it is a matter of focusing on how we can ultimately do the will of God, and not a matter of judgement.

I am happy for you if you have struck gold and wish you well. Your personal choice to date however doesn’t make you more dynamic or bold ahead of your single colleagues. It is quite ironic for some goons and thugs to make some of these assertions. Staying single doesn’t scandalously portray one as regressive, outmoded or a coward. On the contrary, dating based on your feelings alone is what leaves much to be desired, because there are many other ingredients that ought to be considered before you date, and not just based on how you feel.

Every choice you make comes along with its own set of challenges. Every choice ought to be examined on its own merit. We don’t stay single because all our family members are doing same. And we don’t date because all our colleagues are doing likewise. It is about relevance and how that particular choice will aide your course or otherwise, because if you follow the crowd, you will be drown in the crowd!