A Letter To My Church Girlfriend – Your Character And Attitude Will Keep Me (Pt.1)

Dear Ceylle, it has been weeks now since I left Accra for Kumasi. I know you have missed my company since you always want me to be around you. I know you will be uncomfortable being alone but guess what I am not feeling the same here in Kumasi.

Do not ask yourself why? You know very well that I am the quiet type and do not like talking about your attitude and character. The last time I raise this issue of your attitude nearly lead to premature end of our relationship.

Ceylle, at Kumasi I met this lady, Jasmyne at the office whose everything is like yours but with a slight difference in attitude and character. This lady is showing me a lot that makes me fall in love with her persona. Dear do not think otherwise, she is only an office colleague.

This few days that I had I talk with her revealed a lot that I have noticed is missing in you, though I am not comparing her with you. I do not want to stress much on this office lady to make you think an Asante girl is snatching my heart away from you (God forbid).

Everything I want to tell is just about your character and attitudes but since we are both from a sound Christian background, let me point out some scripture references to you so that you might not be much offended.

Ceylle, as we studied in one of our Sunday school lessons “Being light to the world” which I know you are aware talks about the Christian attitudes and character outside the church. And now, let me refer you to the scripture in 1 Peter 3:3-4”Let your beauty not be external-the braiding of hair and wearing of gold jewelry or fine cloth, instead it should the inner disposition of the heart, consisting of the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which god values greatly”. My dear Ceylle, this is not to say you do not have a good attitude or character but to work on the most appreciated one by most guys in the church to be an envious one. One thing I will say is that the praises most people in the church gave you is not much about you character but your beauty.

Ceylle, you know very well that you are a kind of lady (Songs 1:15 Look at you! you are beautiful, my darling. Look at you! You are so beautiful.) that I never want to lose to anyone and in the process of putting things in order for our wedding. But the beauty alone cannot get you there baby. Do you remember this? The very question you like to ask guys who are getting married at their bachelor’s night. Proverbs 31:30 “charm is deceitful and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised” This is one question I will not expect anyone to ask at my bachelor’s night. Do not get me wrong Ceylle, my family as well as yours know you a God-fearing woman. But I want things to be at the right place before we start a life long journey (marriage) just to say “fixing culpability where culpability is”.

Ceylle, I have appreciated you and everything about you (Songs 4:7 my darling, you are altogether beautiful and there is no blemish in you). You know it very well and I will always do that for my dear love. Yes people in the church will always praise you when it comes to church activities and modesty, they are right but they are not closer to you to point out some lapses in your character and attitude. Indeed as it is written “give her credit for what she has accomplished, and her works praise her in the city gates” Proverbs 31:31, is what we all have done.

Dear Ceylla, I just want our relationship to be a standard that friends will try to attain but the attitude is key to me. I want people to say to you on our 30^th wedding anniversary day that “many daughters have done valiantly, but you surpass them all” proverb 31:29

I did not mean to spoil your mood and do not think this is an indirect way to end my relationship with you, for you know how I always describe my love for you. “Many waters cannot quench love, neither can the floods drown it: if a man would give all the substance of his house for love, it would utterly be contemned” songs 8:7. The next time I write to you, I will point out what things you need work on on your character and attitude.

Your Love,
Graceson D. Abotsi