Hard or Easy is the Wrong Sexual Question or Focus

Sex is arguably the oldest human puzzle, where cultures largely abused men, religions semi-rescued men, and secular governments gambled both genders for money. Considering sex is how we end up with eight billion people on earth, it is not minor. Meaning our sexual thoughts, sexual words, and sexual actions may matter more than many may guess. When you and I hear or read 'women, you should be hard to get', that is often a matriarchal tactic or illusion to control what type of men? The illusions can be spread by both genders, because humans tend to lack sincerity (truthfulness). Many humans think life revolves around intelligence versus stupidity (illusions), so these folks may not have much respect for truth or squared kindness. They have a short sighted message to Women, for women, but what message to men and for men ? I think asking both genders to be sincere beyond raw emotions is much smarter than focusing on easy versus hard. After getting it, what is your message to maintain? They assume tortured men will subdue or accept more torturing? We must understand or gauge the message in two dimensions: marriage and outside marriage. The biggest question or dilemma is humans still lack truthfulness on sex. A good or truly smart person will focus on character, health, and wealth in what ways?

Should women be hard to marry? If you answer yes, then list what kind of hardships men should endure and why per listing. We have seen the era of cultures and some religions imposed or allowed dowry on men. Both the bible and Quhr-aahn claim prophet Moses worked for seven or eight years to get a wife and the robbing 'parent' was suggesting that as a 'favor', that Moses may proceed to work for ten years. The most deceptive people had always claimed favor to their victims, but the irony is some victims never learn or may become a culprit. How long should men work to bribe or beg for sex? My answer is around zero, one, or two days , or what burden do you want to impose on the poor?

Outside Marriage: Now we may have to divide it into two: virgins and non-virgins. Considering sex is arguably one of the most potent 'drugs' or addiction, I think we should all encourage children to stay away from sex as long as they can, preferably around age 20 . The problem is the present matriarchal leaning world cannot see much sexual wrongs, especially by females. We cannot ask fifteen year olds to stay out of sex, but allow them to dress semi-naked in schools and public places, over adore sex in music+, and expect young men+ not to try getting sex. The matriarchal west worsen it with porn cultures and encouraging of even masturbation. How many girls versus boys dis-virgin themselves through masturbation ? Well, maybe 'hard to get' indoctrination plays a part in such .

After first sex or non-virgins: Over 90% of such cannot stop, it becomes a need until God rescues you. So telling such people: 'women should be hard to get' is torturing , cruel, or indifferent at the very least. Now, imagine a naive young woman who broke up with a boyfriend, masturbated for months, then met someone she likes, but society or the worst of people claim you should masturbate for many more weeks or months to have him respect you. Any man who respects you because you played hard to get is an idiot, not just a fool. If we can indoctrinate men to accept pain as 'good', then we should be able to teach men to appreciate sincerity, and be grateful for happiness. There is no evidence that a woman who plays 'hard to get' is good or will play equally hard to get to all men? There is also no evidence that a woman who seeks you or accepts you the first day or week is a bad woman and will do similar to all men. How she treats you is not how she will treat every man, so demand good treatment and treat her well.

A group of fear oriented men and women have unverified assumptions , want to control or over control men for greed, and may arrogantly impose their illusions as what works on few, average, or most men? I do not think being easy is the answer, but instead being sincere to win God's first favor, but you may need to be sincerely kind to maintain a relationship until when? I have repeatedly said: I largely admire the west on mainly learning and working standards, but I think they encourage terrible fun ways, including sex. Because the west is rich, has masterful indoctrination tactics and image building, they have naive students to spread their ways around the world. I dare you to randomly check 100 breakups in the west or anywhere, it will have much more to deal with fear, greed, or arrogance, not hard or easy access in the beginning.

First, they start vaguely 'hard to get' , but how hard for how long do they recommend? After the first sex, how are you going to maintain the relationship? Playing more hardships? The west is largely a sexual failure in many respects, so we should be very careful of what we import in their sexual ways. If we cannot help them, let them not destroy us. If you think millions of divorces per year is bad, then double or triple those millions exist as separations (breakups). Although millions of those will run the cycle of re-trying, millions will then try drugs or more alcohol, millions may even try LGBTQ. What percentage of ones who play 'hard to get ' until marriage will commit adultery with ease or another 'hard to get' while she plays both? People, especially men, are so displeased that some are talking about AI dolls as partners. My biggest worry on the messaging 'hard to get' is it will likely lead to sexual assaults of some sort. If you are not ready for sex, it is best to stay away from sexual relationships.

The number one thing we should teach both genders about is sincerity (truthfulness), number two is compromise (kindness), number three is verifiable intelligence gauging (learning)... People are attracted very differently. An immature person may still fear the one they are attracted to. However, mature people or true love is what conquers fear, greed, and arrogance. We should teach both genders: Never ask someone unless you are truly attracted to the person at B or above . Meaning, if you get him or her, can you say no to someone more beautiful or handsome? You have not met even 5% of the world, so stop thinking you can get the most beautiful girl in the world, or you are the most beautiful girl. So even at attraction level, compromise matters. Sometimes you can be in illusions, 'yes! She is the most beautiful one in the world to me...' Fine! But beauty does not guarantee even the best sex, let alone living peacefully. By asking those you prefer to be with forever, God becomes your witness and potential helper, provided you do not lie or be cruel to him or her.

For non-virgin adults, I do not think you need even a week to bravely check, not cowardly assume, or play games. List me your fears and let love or intelligence tackle them. You think s/he has sex with everyone is a dangerous assumption, but how can the looks help on that? Yes, I will use the eyes, but we can also use machines. How about a health check-up culture? Here are my last health checkup results, do you want us to go for a join-medical check-up? Some will say that is not romantic, but I think that is much better than negative assumptions and playing cruel for months and gambling your health with the cruel as smart. The capitalist world may rob us through medical check up, but perhaps cheaper than some steak dinners, or will a vegan buffet do? Once you eliminate or compromise on health matching, you have wealth and character checking. Or should I add: We agree to a medical check up every three months, plus the ones we can do at home. Cheaters may not like such, but wait till my worldwide culture of cameras is realised. Cruelty to animals, men, blacks, etc they adore as worked for centuries, but machines and conscience are new blessings they may reject.

Wealth Checking: Jarga, will you turn down a pretty girl just because she is poor? No! I mean worse than prostitutes who are selling 'hard to get' are likely checking how much you may give in the beginning and discontinuation may bring breakups in the west+. So ask me if I work on the first day, visit me at work or verify in which ways? I am jobless, but still loves you, will you carefully love me in our easier world of sex? I understand bringing a child can be costly, so we agree to have no children or by when? No! It is taboo to say 'too early to have children', only too early to have sex should be discussed. Who will pay for the travel cost for the sexless or sexual visits? How often can we see per week? 'I am busy' is for the cheating women or those who are broken-hearted , not ready to love. She sees you once or twice in a week, to go have sex with someone else or masturbate, and you naively think 'hard to get' means good? Make one million videos that 'hard to get does not mean good' and 'hard to get does not mean lasting relationships'. You can claim, 'at least I tried cruelty or indifference', but numbers matter beyond wealth. In some regions, women can directly ask for money on the first day, that is not a taboo, and she may genuinely need it. In the deceptive west, she wants how many free dinners, shoppings , travels, etc as implicit dowry? Beside pornography, some of you are worse than prostitutes, so repent and stop telling children 'cruelty is what works on men', or what types of men?

Character checking is arguably the hardest. Personally, only those who accept truth and conscience are above every culture, religion, and government law are worthy of partnering with, beyond sex. So what does your culture or xyz say about intelligence, truth, and kindness? Are they equally important or relatively equal in what percentage ranges? Between ten to hundred questions, you can gauge the mindset or character of a person. You can also watch ten movies or listen to twenty songs to discuss for gauging? Where one is wrong or different, who will learn or tolerate in which ways? I know you wrongly train men to make sweet lies, but lying is largely or totally dangerous. The west are so cowardly, they forbid men to ask the age of a woman. If I look at you, ask you out, or you ask me out and I agree, your age will not make me back-off , unless I fear jail or worse from God. Are you in a relationship or married is one question I often forget to ask, because I wrongly assume you will let me know, and I will run where need be. Again, investigate 100 separations or divorces, list the top 3 reasons for each and it has nothing to do with hard or easy access , but fear, greed, and arrogance in the deeper sense. Even the foolish man who may tell you, 'she gave it to me easy, the first night', so I don't trust her. He is just a victim of indoctrination and fear oriented assumptions. If she was giving herself to everyone, she would likely look terrible. Well, I may not want her to have even two boyfriends, but 'hard to get' is not how you check that.

So how long do you need to check the character of a partner for marriage or a simple sexual relationship? As a fearless loving person, the laws of a country can determine whether I marry or not. Divorce cost is not just finance, but time and other factors. Your religion allows zero to infinite dowry, but why should I pay if you truly love me? Although men largely paid dowry to mostly questionable women, great women paid dowry for men as a compromise to culture . Khadijah (pbuh) , the first wife of prophet Muhammad (pbuh) did not play hard to get, but essentially paid the dowry or more. So women were able to love before modern Islam, so shame on Muslim women+ who cannot love, ask first, or accept asking without putting unnecessary hardship on a man. Shame on everyone who preaches 'hard to get' is good, or let them come debate me on TV or social media. You are asking the wrong question, making females focus on the wrong ways as ' intelligent.'

Sexual facts: Young females are indoctrinated that they are sexually superior, but are they truly superior and by how much? So that builds a mindset on both males and females? Superior in sexual powers of attraction does not mean total superiority in all powers and certainly not in choice. Questionable cultures encourage her on questionable dressing, sexualizing her body and sexualizing the minds of males. Nature comes with wet dreams, but who enjoys wet dreams more based on genders, or does it vary per individual and age? You can enjoy the wet dream and still understand you should wait on sex. However, your friends and society may over adore sex to tempt you to try. If you enjoyed the wet dream or it was neutral, then how can you assume men enjoy wet dreams much more or will enjoy sex much more? If you watch porn before sex, you can guess perhaps 'women are not doing men a favor, sexually '. Young or stupid men may accept all kinds of hardships for sex, but after your real good sex, seeing sex as favor to men is very dishonest. If you continue on that dishonest route or mindset, God may punish you one day. I suspect God is doing both a questionable favor in the world of sex.

Even animals hate hardships, so only deceptive humans will glorify hardships as good. No! I do not mean we should copy animals, but even animals may resist 'dowries' and porn like temptations. The irony of humans is lack of good consistency. The whites+ say no to dowry, but yes to porn or paying for less than sex, sexless sexuals (ses). When will men evolve from sexual stupidity and women from sexual cruelties? The worst of women are chanting 'play hard to get' and women worshipping men agree or echo until when? After contrasting humans with animals, we must contrast the genders by continents or by countries? How do each continent define hardship and why men have to bear the burden? Our generation has very easy jobs, except capitalism brings unnecessary hardships on even job access. My point is women no longer need men to survive well, so all should embrace learning and working for reasonable wealth. Ending capitalism and bringing Lovism is the favor humans need.

A fraction of women have the courage to ask men out, but what percentage of such women do we dare label 'bad women'. Perhaps 90% of such are the best of women, but a percentage of the rest may be due to sex worshipping or worse. A big percentage of women are too fearful or too arrogant to directly ask, but may tempt in other subtle ways and still love to be begged? If those who cannot ask , still love to be begged, then seeing men on their knees for sex is a sad culture that must die asap. Both genders should be trained on how to turn down gently, or my envisioned worldwide culture of cameras may be a dilemma somewhere. Thank you, may God bless you, but I am not interested at the moment’, should be respected. But Jarga, they told us 'all or most' women cannot be sincere in the beginning, should play hard to get, and men must persist? Well, some have devilish thoughts and words before actions. As the beloved Jesus Christ said, 'let your yes be yes, and your no be no'.

Yes on attraction is the first step that needs only a few seconds. If you cannot be sincere on even that, then the molding is to be blamed, not the gender. Cultures, religions, and governments can have questionable moldings. Even as a salesperson, overcoming objections can be good , but respecting 'no' or not over pushing is good. So her response can determine whether you should ask more questions or leave her in peace. A love to be begged partner falls under arrogance, and they are very dangerous to pursue.

The world of sexual relationships comes with strong emotions, so even five minutes with someone who does not love you can be very dangerous. I am not justifying sexual assaults, but most sexual assaults come through one-way love. If you suspect s/he does not love you, test directly and frankly to decide. Suspicions can be right or wrong. Emotions can overcome anyone and as little as touching after a no can get you sexual assault charges.

So when you are in public places under cameras, ask the right questions. Gauge if you should proceed to private places or run from the beautiful with a terrible mindset. Hopefully when cannabis is legalized worldwide, the anti cannabis folks will accept more truth in and beyond sex. No woman+ is worthy of begging, but those of us who understand a just God is ever present will certainly avoid harming a woman or anyone. Love me like I love you, or stay the hell from me . Even inside marriage, a verse said: 'if you choose hardship for each other, then Allah is independent', meaning will not help and may judge justly. Partnership and life in general requires deep meditation on ch.103. If you choose or accept me out of eight billion people, and still think you should be cowardly hard on me, then you may be a terrible widow of love or think I am among the worst of men? Some say donkeys have to be beaten, so some gently beat and others beat with cruelty, but where is the God who will give me an aircraft or at least a nice vehicle? Some say most men or all men have to be tortured to appreciate women, but I only want the women who believe in mutual love, mutual uplifting. You don't have to scream at me in fear or arrogance; nor laugh at me or mistaken me for Bob Marley, who claims 'knocking door for three years...' How was he sexually surviving while knocking and will he leave her for you? Questionable or bad men beg and/or force. How many men bent a knee to propose, but only to beat or even kill her to be with another woman? Jarga! You have no idea how terrible some women are? Actually I do, I left at least two women after a 'seeming yes', because an intolerable fail during character checking means too dangerous to proceed. About five or xyz women left me in fear, greed, or arrogance, and I did not cry. Fearing human police can be genuine, but understanding God wants you to stay away from cruel and lying women, or risk punishment is more vital.

Beside getting, you must ask what other hardships s/he believes men should endure? Some believe blacks are terrible in how many ways to wish for dictators as the remedy? Every race and gender may have questionable folks, including ingratitude. You teach gently first and enough, and you may never need to teach the hardway. If God gives me the powers to make love to you for thirty minutes or two hours, that may be a sign that I am not your average man. If you are grateful, I stay, because I fear the Lord may punish me if I do you wrong. However, I equally fear begging the ungrateful can lead to God's punishment. If you or xyz is lying on the internet to naive young boys and girls, then refusing to set things straight in the spirit of ch.103 is a crime. I call you to an open debate or may God make your life ten fold, or more , harder than you are gambling in fear and assumptions. Again, stop spending even a minute on hard or easy. The first question is are you attracted, then be sincere and be reasonably easy to yourself and the one you are attracted to . Some say God is not involved in relationships, but I am not too sure about that. From the power of attraction to even meeting cannot occur without some level of God's help. If you are attracted to a married person, the test is to resist and God may bless you with someone much better. If you are attracted to someone single, the test is to overcome fear and ask, but if S/he says no, then gracefully assume something or someone bigger may be stored for you. If s/he said yes, then the real test begins and may the one(s) who loves more sincerely win(s), not any gender or the seemingly intelligent one. Both can be in hell or heaven, or one in heaven after separation. Even the so-called victims of Epstein are not in equal hell, or some may be in heaven. So why the animals of the earth largely suffer through sex is for guessing or those who know animal's languages. Why do different tribes and races teach or indoctrinate differently? What works mean they study how many and impose their raw desires or deductions on those born way after? Men deserve to be loved, not just women. If it is by percentages, I enter with 100%, but what percentage can you cowardly enter with as ‘caution’ and raise or reduce yours by when? Your parents may not tell you the whole truth about sex, but are you willing to honestly learn? Remember, God is a witness and a just judge. So I refuse to believe that a girl or woman can break my heart. Thus I love fearlessly and if she leaves me rightly, I learn to be better; wrongly, I celebrate as God's rescue. Thankfully, God has blessed me with better than sex, so sex is just a nice plus in my life. Sex is no longer a need to me, but a want. However, I understand sex is a secondary need to billions of people and trying to help them is a form of gratitude. If the mistaken or evil ones can indoctrinate lies or cruel illusions, then I am choosing a few hours of writing to educate some. I thank God for countless things, but I'm still looking for the Lord of achievements, the Lord of worldwide culture of cameras, swimming pools, exercise, etc. You cannot color a whole gender as they operate this way. There must be right and wrong ways even before humans were created. If average humans, blacks, whites, Arabs, etc sign a good or bad contract, then who will update the contracts? Between Moses and Solomon, who was sexually more blessed? No! Our generation is 'good deal or no deal', good love or no love ( happy singles). Where is the pretty girl who says I look better than Joseph, but a God who will protect me from prison and lying women? I mean where is the God who will rebuild me so handsome that the seeing girls (women) will choose or accept me with ease? Boys or men, try to get a healthy body you adore from the mirrors+ more than efforts to 'own' a girl or woman who adores only beautiful things and places, or puts the questionable ways she inherits or comes across above conscience. I am not saying sex is not nice, but I pray and enjoy higher than average sex, almost every day. Life is way beyond two points of emotions, but your whole body can be in hell-fire or heaven even here on earth. You cannot get a high earthly heaven through human intelligence alone, but through truthfulness. Even though truth is arguably the easiest subject in love and beyond, kindness is also more vital than deceptions or rising intelligence of what level? Animals, atheists, hypocritical Muslims+, hypocritical jews or Christians+ enjoy sex and can have babies, but truth is very hard for many of them. Many pastors+ avoid sex, but sometimes woefully failed by abusing vulnerable children or questionable adults. The Imams may marry four wives and be indifferent to the poor single men? They insinuate men need women sexually, but in their marriage ritual, they add: 'You should sleep with her, not deprive her of sex'. If you listen properly or use your eyes, you know God helps both with at least happiness more than animals. He may withdraw or reduce the happiness due to ingratitude or sad echoing of baseless or dangerous claims. Being human, especially in this age, demands quick learning. Your fellow humans of other races or even animals and AI should not outperform you on gratitude. God has blessed and punished millions in both genders, so do not let them fool you on gender supremacy. Try to be among the most grateful, including the confronting of lying or cruel ways, even if they are million years old. Elon Musk may be the first trillionaire who gets women with ease; who is the healthiest man or woman alive is a harder gauge? Who has the best sexual character at personal level versus confronting evil norms can be very different. So feel free to compete positively, but remember you have not met even five percent of the world. I do not know why God gave me or you questionable partners, including those spreading lies, illusions, implicit cruelties, etc? However, once you accept and/or spread lies+, you are putting yourself or others in danger, collecting sins between creatures. This is not a game and children or even adults can be gullible. Imagine one, ten, or hundred people ignoring the importance of sincerity due to your echoing and gambling on 'hard to get' under a just God, testing people before any religion was born... Your questionable or failed parents , or social influencers, claiming hard to get works above sincerity deserve questioning. Ask them did they personally experience bad relationships due to easy giving or just through assumptions? Ask them how long should you play 'hard to get' and will it guarantee a lasting relationship? I am not suggesting worshipping raw desires, but relationships demand much more than 'intelligence'. You need God's help and being truthful may help you much more. You can have a PhD in multiple respected subjects, have billionaires seeking relationship guidance from you, and you still cannot guarantee having a good relationship for even yourself. Even some prophets and kings were tested with bad partners. Even defining 'good relationship' can be hard if duration is just one gauge in even abusive relationships, and happiness is professed in just and unjust ways. Some people claim low level happiness even in prostitutes, because sexual need can be a hell, so every escape seems heavenly. A true love that fails at some point should not erase the good moments or make memories a new hell. We imagine good things about sex before we experience our first sex. So after a relationship or two, why should any choose cowardly masturbation above mutual uplifting? If you are both single, attracted to each other, then bravely try again, including a health check-up. I truly believe governments should encourage regular health check-ups, including but not limited to sexually transmitted diseases. Every district or county should have laboratories and self testing machines should be sought. The fees and cost of the machines should be reasonable. A worldwide culture of cameras will also help improve relationships or human sexual character. Until then, you should know God can help you overcome physical and mental+ diseases that the guilty fear or claim about relationships. Once you choose sincerity, you may be protected or learn slightly the hard way. If you choose questionable ways above conscience, then a teenager+ who causes mass sexual mental distress may deserve mental agony or what under reckless sins between creatures? Some things are worse than mistaken sincere sex. Veganism may also help you resist sexual urgings ... Some cannabis strains lead you to sexual urges, while some strains help you resist such by satisfying you even sexually, without masturbation. God has many mysteries on earth, in and beyond sex. So seek higher than sex, or at least avoid lying and cruelty just for sex.... May God bless Showlove Trinity: let's learn, let's work, let's have fun.

By Jarga Kebba Gigo
An Activist and Transformer
Author of Juts Quhr-aahn