How To Be Lovers Forever In Marriage

To be Lovers forever you need knowledge. You can be in your marriage and enjoy it forever; you can be lovers forever in your marriage, all you need is skill to be a great friend, a good partner and skill to be lover boys and girls no matter the age of your marriage.

1. ACCEPTANCE: In the lives of two love birds, acceptance is a key factor. You can't love someone you do not accept. To live together forever as lovers, you must accept your spouse's stature, height, complexion, facial look and everything about him. Begin to see your spouse as someone having the best height, set of teeth, complexion, tummy, qualification, hair, best face and be proud of his profession (Song of Solomon 4: 10).
2. FORGIVENESS: Marriage cannot last if forgiveness is not part of it. In marriage, you will offend your spouse, but what will help you to stay married is your ability to forgive. Make up your mind to forgive; being generous with forgiveness will make your marriage to last (Colossians 3: 13).
3. DEVELOP TEAM MINDEDNESS: Successful couples are not extraordinary people; they are people with team spirit. It follows logically that a marriage cannot work when a couple relates with solo mindedness. One mind, team spirit enhances the health of a marriage. So drop solo thoughts, eating, dressing, purchasing and sleeping alone. That is a self centered existence. Be a team player. Talk, walk, play, dress, sleep, build and invest as a team. Team spirit will insure your marriage against satanic, in-laws and third party encroachment (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12).
4. EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION: Couples communicate; great lovers communicate effectively. Effective communication is the fuel that keeps lovers going. Effective communication involves better understanding, adequate choice of words, right timing, sincerity, truthfulness, openness and continuity. Let there be no dark room in your union; communicate effectively (Colossians 4:6).
5. DO AWAY WITH NEGATIVE EMOTIONS: Though you plan to live together as soul mates you may end up living together like cat and rat if you don't deal with negative emotions. Divest yourself of negative emotions like excessive demonstration of anger, retaliation, vengeance, malicious statements and attitudes, negative thoughts and interpretations, unfriendliness and negative statements. These negative emotions can destroy any marriage if left unchecked. Seek for help; go for counselling on how to overcome them and get a copy of my book: YOUR CHARACTER IS YOUR MARRIAGE (Ephesians 4:31). Available here on konga

Bisi Adewale