It Is A Shameful Thing To Be Introduced As A Boyfriend/Girlfriend – Counselor Lutterodt

Controversial pastor, marriage counsellor and sex therapist, George Lutterodt, has stated empathically that it is a shameful thing to be introduced as a boyfriend or girlfriend because that title is demeaning.

According to him, the right word should be ‘study mate’ because the act of two people of the opposite sex coming together to know each other with the intention of marriage shouldn’t be termed dating, rather ‘studying’.

“When someone introduces you to friends, family or whatever as a girlfriend or boyfriend, it is a shame, very demeaning. You should rather be introduced as a study mate rather than that title,” Counsellor Lutterodt said.

The ‘troublesome’ counsellor was speaking as a panel member on ‘Tales From The Powder Room’, a show which discusses marriage and relationship problems sent in by viewers via letter which is aired on GHOne on Wednesdays.

The letter [relationship problem] up for discussion last Wednesday night was from a thirty year old man who needed advice because his girlfriend whom he claims he loves so much was threatening to leave the relationship after two years because he does not allow her to sleep over at his place, cook, wash or do other domestic chores for him.

Taking his turn to comment on the letter, Counsellor Lutterodt advised the young man to leave the ‘immoral’ girlfriend because she is ‘uncultured’ and not well trained.

According to him, any woman who is not married but offers to carry out some chores strictly meant for wives is a shameless and desperate immoral woman who must not be taken seriously.

He narrated how he left one of his ‘girlfriend’ [before marriage] because she went ahead to gift his mother a birthday cake which he felt was wrong because that should only be done by a wife.

“Ladies who agree to pre-marital sex have mental problem. Why would a lady threaten a man because he doesn’t allow her to do the chores that are a wife’s role? The demand to sleep over and cook and wash means the lady is not well cultured or well trained.”

“She just wants to prepare the ground for pre-marital sex that is what she wants to do to the gentleman. He should leave her immediately,” the counsellor said forcefully, banging his fist on his chair.

He argued that such women have no better aim for a relationship than sex, and so once the other party is not giving in to their sexual demands, they [the women] threaten to leave the man.

“Do not enter into a relationship without any meaningful mission. Before you start studying each other go for a pre-marital counselling and develop a 10-year plan today before entering into anything of that sort,” he advised.

Dating is not the same as a relationship because at the end of the day the man will choose whom he wants to marry. Choosing therefore means that there are many others he can select from; he is not under any obligation to marry you. If you cook for a man when dating, you are a shameful woman, he says.