Semen is sweet but women a bright future is sweeter part 2

The stories in part 2 are heartbreaking, these are women who gave up everything for their lovers. Just to be tossed aside when the grass looked greener on the other side. Never give up your dreams and future for a man to pursue his. You came into his world to make something out of yourself, don't let a man take that away from you. He will leave you powerless and feeling diminished and his life will go on. You are on this earth to enjoy and make yourself all you wish. Remember that, fulfil your dreams before becoming an accessory to someone else. The women have been kept anonymous for their privacy.

" I was young when we met. He was a houseboy heavily into church. My parents were not particularly wealthy but we didn't struggle. People wondered why a beautiful girl like me, fair, well endowed and perfectly proportioned girl fell in love with a bad looking houseboy. He was funny, interesting, kind and God fearing. He also had ambition he dreamed of becoming an electrician, and his Madame ( also his family member) was willing to help him get there. I was also planning to be a nurse, we fell in love. Though the road was long and hard. I stood by him, even gave up my career in nursing for him. So I could help him support his dreams. I went into catering instead. We got married and he finally became an electrician, God also blessed us with two children. A few years later he started saying I was not on his level, I was uneducated, could not speak English well, lacked class, acted like a bush woman and had no manners. Can you believe the man I gave everything up for divorced me, left me with nothing and his family agreed with this. They said I was too much trouble and lacked respect. I wonder if why he didn't see all these character traits he despised, when he was poor and I was the only woman going for him. I wonder why he didn't notice I was wicked, when I was sacrificing my life for him. It still hurts I loved him so much. I should have listened when people said he's not my class. He really isn't." Lady A

" When we were dating it was perfect, he is the driver for a wealthy couple in Ghana. He gave me a show, spending on me buying me lavish gifts and saying all the sweet words he could to get me. I am not from a wealthy family, but I was brought up to exude class, dignity, self respect and elegance. I am also very hard working. God also blessed me with beauty. Everyone around him thought he good taste when he married me. Two children later, I discovered the man who was so generous, was selfish, rude, ungrateful and abusive. I would wake up in the early hours of the morning and go to work till evening, to make enough money to take my two children to private school. He doesn't contribute much to the house. I do everything. Even the house we now own was mostly brought by my money. Even getting him to buy bread for the children is an uphill battle. He criticised the way I clean plates, cook, wash, basically everything I do. I love him so I tolerated him. After years of putting up with this behaviour and remaining loyal to him. He now has a girlfriend. We are still married. He puts this girlfriend on Facebook and whatsapp statuses, sometimes as his profile even. He buys her clothes, items and takes her on trips. It's so humiliating. He even wears a belt on the rare occasions he comes home to me, so that I can't have sex with him. I've also started removing his last name from mine, on all platforms. It's over. I have no choice but to accept it. He's already proudly proclaiming her to the world as his girl ! He won't listen to family, friends or anyone about his bad behaviour. I guess he loves her enough to fight for her. I guess it's time for me to find someone who will do the same for me." Lady B

"I am from a different culture and background to his. Though we are both African. I would learn to cook all his favourite dishes from a friend who came from his place. Sometimes I would cook three to four meals and travel from my home ( about 5 hours away from his) to his with them. I gave him great sex, love, respect and everything he wanted. Yet he would always make me cry on my birthday, by calling me to insult me. I would arrive at his house sometimes to see three or four women from his place, cooking meals for him. Then he will tell me these are real women, women who can cook, clean and look after a man. Not useless woman like me. I would cry and get angry and come back. I still loved him. After a couple of years. One day he made me cry on my birthday and I had enough. Nothing I do would ever be good for him. I cut him off, he still calls me. However I don't pick, I've wasted too much of my time, loving someone who didn't care about me." Lady C

" I gave him a 5,000 pound loan of money I received on scholarship to further his studies. He said he will pay me back. Once I got back to our country I never heard from him again. When I called my friends in our university to help me collect the money. He asked them were they there when he collected the money ? What prove do I have that we had the exchange ? He will pay me when he's ready to. Till now I haven't received my money. I'm struggling in our home country. All because I loved someone." Lady D

By Tuntum Nahana Akosua