The Punitive Retaliation For Financially Assisting A Friend

All of us were trained as youngsters to be nice, sensitive, and kind. We were continually reminded of what was wicked and what was not with religion. As a result, we have a clear picture in our heads that it is good to be kind, but they didn't tell us where the bounds of kindness end. Because wicked people misinterpret people's goodwill as stupidity in order to profit from it, some kindness can create a lot of anxiety.

Only a few people can aid you financially, thus kindness is incredibly rare. If you are someone who knows the complexities of human life, you are always willing to assist, whether or not the assistance is monetary. If I have the ability to help someone but ignore them because money is involved, I consider it cruel.

A drinking establishment owner in Ghana approached with financial problems. He needs money to buy drinks, which will boost sales and help him pay off his debt. The money was supplied on the condition that it would be returned in a month. The month passed, two months passed, and the third month began. I went to visit him, but the fact that I was coming for the money enraged him, and he stated forcefully that the money was not ready.

Why should others' compassion be viewed as a chance to profit from it? Do we have to keep helping friends financially even if they treat us badly as a result of our generosity?

You can readily tell if someone owes you money and is prepared to repay you, and you can also tell if he is unwilling to repay you. I'll never forget the day I courageously went to him for the sake of my money. The resentment of being a victim of a good Samaritan was so strong that I didn't want to return to the man because it seems to me that he might easily kill me for the money.

"Let's do something," I said absently at the time, "let's divide the money, take half and give me the other." He agreed and handed over the cash. It was at that moment that I realized he could smile because he never did when I asked for money. Why should people see other people's compassion as an opportunity to profit from it?

That horrible incident should have taught me enough common sense to cease financially supporting people, but I didn't. A friend was departing for Ghana around two years ago in Belgium. "Kobby, going to Ghana is a voyage you should always be financially sound because you can get into some unpleasant situations that will give you discomfort if you don't have enough money on you," I informed him over the phone.

I know since it happened to me in Ghana, and more money was sent to me to make things better while I was on vacation in Accra.

Kobby stated that he does not require money at this time, but if he does, he will notify me. When he returned to Belgium after a month, he contacted and claimed he needed money. He arrived at my residence by car. I decided to offer him 250 Euros without asking for a specific amount. But, before we left for the bank, I noticed a letter in my mailbox.

It was about paying for my car insurance, so I apologized and told him that I was about to give him a sum of 250 Euros, but that I would only give him 150 Euros since I needed to pay for my car insurance. I took the cash from the ATM and handed it over to him. After taking the money, Kobby failed to connect with me or respond to my messages, and it's been two years now.

I wasn't angry with Kobby in the first place because he didn't ask me for money. The request if he needed money came from me, so I don't have to hate him for his actions; however, I was disappointed because we were communicating regularly before the money, and I had been with him during the Journalists Association's end-of-year press conferences.

It was quite painful to have someone you trusted treat you in this manner because of money. More importantly, Kobby has a decent job and is well paid, therefore I don't see why we should cut ties over 150 Euros. Nothing I keep to myself without telling my wife, except this encounter, which she will not forgive me for because she has given me ample warning.

I would have given Kobby 250 Euros if it hadn't been for my vehicle's insurance document. Why would he pay 250 Euros if he doesn't want to pay the 150? I'll keep calm and avoid any conflict because I don't fight people who owe me money, but my hope is that he will see this article and return my money to me. If I'm no longer alive, he should look for my family and make restitution.

It's now crystal clear to me that if you want to have a healthy friendship, don't offer a buddy any money since lending money is bad for relationships, and do we still have to help people even if the only benefit is that you'll get hurt? I'm not sure what goes through the minds of those that do that. However, they'll understand when they need financial assistance and can't find it.

The world is a lovely place, but its inhabitants have turned it into a hazardous place. Some people can kill a human being and carry on with their lives, while others cannot and must confess their crimes to the authorities. I don't owe anyone money, but I don't think I'll be able to sleep soundly if I do.

So, if someone can cut you off from communication for two years over money, then he's a nasty person. There are nice people in our world who make life worthwhile. It's difficult to tell who is good and who is bad, so pray that you will meet good people in your life and never stop helping people if you can because your reward will come from the unknown in amazing situations.