Aba Dope reveals why she chose motherhood over marriage after painful heartbreak

Aba Dope

Aba Dope, a popular Ghanaian socialite, has opened up about a difficult past relationship and how the experience influenced her decision to have a child outside marriage.

Speaking in an interview with Nana Romeo on Okay FM, she shared a heartfelt story of love, betrayal, and ultimately choosing her own peace over societal expectations.

She recounted falling in love with a young man while they were both in school, believing their relationship held the promise of a bright future. During that period, Aba said she devoted herself fully to the relationship, even supporting his family in various ways.

She explained that while attending nursing school, she often washed dishes for the young man's mother, helped with household chores, and even did his laundry, all in the hope of laying a strong foundation for marriage. But things changed when he travelled outside Ghana.

Aba said she remained loyal and held on to the belief that he would return to marry her. Her hopes were shattered when a close friend of the young man informed her that he had already married his long time fiancée abroad.

She later discovered that he had been secretly involved with another woman during their relationship, with the full knowledge of his mother. The revelation, she said, left her deeply hurt and reshaped her understanding of love.

According to Aba Dope, the emotional pain and betrayal she endured made her resolve to protect herself and avoid traditional romantic commitments. She revealed that when she eventually decided to have a child, she made her intentions clear.

She said she told her baby’s father that she was not interested in a committed relationship but only wished to have a child.

“Having a child out of wedlock is not a crime. I told him hey, I just need a child, not a committed relationship,” she said.