Overcoming Sexual Immorality

In recent past, sexual immorality has been on the ascendancy, which has attracted public attention on how best to bring down this social canker. Sexual immorality simply means sexual perversion from moral, social and religious conventions. It may include premarital sexual relations, homosexuality, adultery; masturbation, rape and lust just to mention a few. It is therefore imperative to discuss the factors which account for this bad practices, its dire consequences and suggest solutions with the view of remedying the situation.

One of the factors which account for sexual immorality is pornography. Pornography is harmful and ungodly because it makes sex so trivial. It provides a platform where women are framed up as mere sex objects. This account to sexual immorality because, it builds lust in our heart which makes us vulnerable to sexual sin. The lustful appetite associated with pornography renders one very weak to withstand sexual temptations. Those who become addicted to pornography become addicted to sexual immorality and masturbation even when they are married.

A further cause is deception. The phrase “Everybody is doing it” has become very popular in our generation. A story is told of a lady who introduced her fiance to her lady friend on campus. The question her friend could ask was how is their sex life. And she answered her that Christian courtship does not involve sexual relations. Then her campus friend laughed at her and said, “Everybody is doing it”. This deception of the devil is down playing on the value of virginity in this generation where virgins among the youth in some circles are mocked at and considered as brutish or “kolo”.

My dear reader, don’t be deceived, be assertive, for there are remnant of unmarried people who have not compromised their virginity or sexual purity. Therefore stand firm as you fight the battle of purity.

The implications of sexual immorality makes one loose her integrity and social standing. Indulging in sexual immoral activities decreases the social morals and religious uprightness in us and gradually blocks our conscience as if seared with hot iron. Those moral virtues in us only become replaced with uncontrollable lust and addictions. It permanently changes one way of thinking, speech, conduct and association. Those who fall into sexual immoral activities pay with their lives of which many have suffered that.

Moreover, a person without self control over sexual sin is like a city whose walls are broken. A city with broken walls can easily be entered into or exist from. Such a city has no specific gate so any point serves as an entrance or exist for anybody or anything. Similarly, such is a sexual immoral person; he/she can easily contract sexual transmitted diseases.

Now, with the view of overcoming sexual immorality one has to hate it. You need to hate and avoid pornographic scenes on the internet. This is not about shifting the blame for your actions or hating yourself or anyone else. This is about hating sin. We know intuitively that it’s okay to hate bad things; therefore we should see sexual immoral practices as terrible act and hate it for that cause. Begin now to hate sexual sin because it is harmful and distractive like cancer. Decide you won’t tolerate it. Get angry about the way it offends God and the way it hurts you and your body. Move away from self pity and take the offensive.

Again, you can overcome sexual immorality when you starve it. Every enemy looses when their food supply is cut off. French General Napoleon Bonapart said an army marches on its stomach. To defeat sexual temptations, quit feeding it. Starve the appetite for it. This may mean ending a relationship, keeping your eyes and ears free from sexual provocative scenes and noise because when the internet fills the eyes and ears with sex, the heart becomes polluted and the individual will definitely commit the act no matter how careful one tries. It may further mean, staying off instargram, facebook and whatsapp for a season, avoiding club and bars where you know you’ll meet people who want to hook up.

The boundaries will be different for everyone. This isn’t about arbitrary rules; it’s about knowing and choosing what’s best for you. It’s not enough to cut off the food supply, because you will still be hungry for nourishment. Instead of feeding our desires with unhealthy things we should feast on things that will actually satisfy us. We should rather be reading inspirational books, reading the bible, getting active in the community and church. Lust and temptations grows weaker when you starve them and fill yourself with something more better.

Lastly you need to outsmart it. Get ahead of your enemy by predicting the ways you’ll be tempted. Don’t get blindsided because you know yourself very well. Recognize the places and times you’re most vulnerable to giving in to temptation and set up guardrails for yourself. Maybe this may mean not having a TV in your room, or turning off your smart phone every night an hour before bed, or getting out of the bath house immediately after bathing or not helping yourself to get lonely most at times.

Each of us struggle with sexual temptations but those desires look different for everyone. Unhealthy sexual temptation stems from something deeper. Get to the root issue and adapt this battle plan accordingly and you’ll surely overcome it.

Isaac Adu Mensah
mens.isaac@yahoo.com
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