My Quick Response to a Pro Polygamy Post

I admire the west on many aspects, but not on sexual matters. From sexual thoughts to sexual acts, the West failed more than Africa in my opinion. However, that does not mean Africa+ is perfect sexually or should not discuss sexual shortcomings, including the misinterpretations around polygamy. Polygamy existed in cultures before modern religions, and it has disadvantages even then. In the case of Islam, polygamy was clearly a temporal fix to help orphans (children) and widows after a terrible war. Check Chapter 4, the very first few verses. I do not think we should criminalise polygamy, but our interpretation of polygamy and many verses of the Quhr-aahn may differ. The whole purpose of religion is to uplift our conscience in the spirit of ch.103. The polygamy of mainstream Islam is indeed a huge disservice to poor men, sexually. The Arab and black world have long overvalued sex and oppressed the poor... more verses of the Quhr-aahn put sex as a questionable blessing than promote polygamy. Knowing Arabic does not mean proper interpretation of the Quhr-aahn or life, and the evidence is partly in ch.75 that even Arab Muhammad (pbuh) needs explanations of what the verses mean beyond the surface. We need both truth and patience on polygamy. We have millions of suffering children due to putting polygamy above learning and working, so chapter 91 or conscience demands we discuss the proper interpretation of polygamy beyond finance. To claim what 'Allah allows as halal' is shortsighted. First, a big chunk of the Quhr-aahn was revealed by Allah but written by the Angels, who further told us 'successful will be those who raised their conscience'. So true Islam is supposed to be constant raising of the conscience through reciprocal-law and in the spirit of chapter 103. Because the so-called Muslim uhm^mah have ignored the checklist of ch.103 does not mean the best of Muslims+ will blind our eyes, play dumb, and refuse to exhort you to the truth. Humans largely overvalued sex and most people who practice polygamy are just overvaluing sex. It does not matter if our parents and grandparents did it for good or questionable reasons, every age should raise its conscience more than its population or wealth.

A big chunk of the women+ who support polygamy are prostitute minded cowards, which does not mean 'worse than prostitutes' does not exist. Again, things like pornography are legal but at least allowed to be criticised. The worst of Muslims submit to power and forbid 'exhort each other to truth' in fear or arrogance. This terrible mindset is why freedom of speech does not exist in the Arab world and what percentage of Africa? Well, even America and Britain+ are losing their freedom of speech until when? Freedom of speech is Islamic and by far much more important than polygamy, and even going to questionable Mecca. When folks like president Yahya Jammeh were committing heinous crimes, the polygamous Imams and cheating pastors+ were largely silent cowards and arguing flimsy excuses based on questionable hadiths and misinterpretations of some verses in the Quhr-aahn. Our age must put conscience above religion and culture+ . Conscience is not western and raising our conscience is an order or hint in ch.91, but many misinterpret the word as 'soul'. How do we raise our conscience in the world of sex and children, or are you comfortable with the past and never purifying our conscience?

Very few countries will jail you for polygamy and I think that will stop, because such countries tend to allow worse than polygamy. They legally allow adultery, Lgbtq, porn, etc. No seeing honest person will deny polygamy contributes to many ills in and beyond the Gambia and Africa. If we try to shut down the discussion with simplistic arguments 'that Allah or the Quhr-aahn allows it', then we are not 'exhorting each other to the truth...' on polygamy and many issues. God has much better than sex for his blessed souls, even here on earth and may we be among those ones. It does not mean to look down on sex, but overvaluing sex has been a problem for humans and the animals of the earth.

Try veganism and vow not to lie for sex or about sex. Every choice is a test and polygamy is no different. Some people are 'punished' through polygamy even while on earth. Countless polygamous men are constantly lying to competing women, which falls under sins between creatures. Then the poor polygamous men are sometimes in other evils for wealth, but they have no idea how dangerous are sins between creatures. Capitalism is arguably the worst system known to man and being 'successful' under capitalism should not mean endless wives or girlfriends+. Although polygamous does not mean a lot of children, having too many children often means less quality time to each child. So society will fight for questionable women, but we hardly fight for children.

I hope God ends Capitalism before and more than polygamy, but that does not mean polygamy is above discussion. Just because the west seems worst on sexual matters in which percentages, it does not mean Africa+ should be content with bad or ok sexual choices. I do not want any form of hell, even here on earth. Those in polygamy, manage, but do not lie about it. Talk about the advantages if any and the disadvantages. We can see from a distance, but hearing from those in it can carry more weight. Truth may rescue you from hell more than lying in fear and questionable patience. Will you prefer polygamy if you were to reincarnate? I prefer sweet patience over hard patience any day. I understand I am under the childless Lord of conscience more than Muhammad, any prophet, or my parents, grandparents, presidents, etc. Yes, I am human and do enjoy sex, but God has blessed me with higher than sex countless times. I do not think I will ever practice polygamy, but I cannot guarantee that , nor am I willing to condemn it outright. Based on the realities of that post war in Saudi-Arabia, the option of marrying up to four was reasonable. Based on the realities of today, two should be the maximum allowed in almost every country.

If the lying sex worshipping men are indeed truthful and kind, then sponsor a poor man towards work before marriage. Why can't you sponsor a woman without asking for more sex, after having one to three other wives? Spend your time and money to end capitalism and bring Lovism, not just marry, indoctrinate children, and be indifferent. I am certain that questionable first wives do contribute to polygamy for understandable happiness. Bad from the beginning means dual culprits, or a getting worse partner can pressure a man to get a second wife, especially if children are involved. Some will argue to divorce, because some of us are indifferent to children or cannot see how polygamy can make some women adjust their behaviors. I may be the type that rather divorce questionable women, but people are different and the range of tolerance or patience is not an easy gauge.

Both women and children are questionable blessings, by and large. It does not mean we do not have millions of bad men. There is a reason many humans are scared of cameras even in public places, let alone in the homes. Many of those claiming 'happy marriage' in monogamous or polygamous situations will hate enough cameras in the homes. Many are lying folks, but God's cameras and even the cameras of the Godly will reveal much more.

The so-called Pro monogamous folks are not talking about the ills in monogamy, truthfully. They may blame cheating men, but how about cheating women or 'monogamous' women who deny even their husbands sex for weeks or months Based on questionable emotions? Yesterday, I was watching a white woman in rich u.s reportedly living with a boyfriend and having sex with her dog (bestiality) . Again, every country may have sexual ills but in what percentages and levels? Do not oppose discussing the issues, nor be obsessed with punishment. Feel free to educate 'women' if you believe polygamy hurt women, but I strongly oppose criminalising consenting adults. How can you blame only the men when women agree to it? A woman who agrees to be a second wife may be much better than a woman who steals a husband against the children. Women are sexually more powerful than men, so they cannot be blamed free. It does not mean men's choices cannot be judged or some men cannot be raised to be much more powerful than women, even sexually (actively or in restraint).

My thoughts on even prostitution are different from the average person in Africa or the west. Emotions may force you on such, but that does not mean it is good. The matriarchal world sees the prostitutes as the victims, but I think paying for poor service, sex or xyz, is a much worse hell. Such men need help or education, not punishment... Never thank the 'God' or devil who puts you with a prostitute, but rather thank the God who gives you better than prostitutes or at least rescue you from prostitutes. Sexual hell certainly exists on earth and may God protect us from all types of hell and what leads to hell. A person with two wives can still be more truthful than many lying monogamous folks or those paying for porn+. Personally, I prefer monogamy, but I have never been married in my life, except I truly loved and was arguably married in the sight of God... There is a difference between the intentions+ and the formalities of humans... Marriage almost comes with earthly dangers in some countries due to governments... So I may live and die single or marry monogamous in 99% chances. Well, we are indoctrinated that we will probably die, but it is indeed possible for death to stop existing. However, suppose I was happily married and a pretty girl approached me, conscience may tell me to tell her to try the single men. However, if there are no good single men and she seems sexually in need, likable, good, etc saying no may be against a decent conscience. I have learned to be able to happily live without sex, but things can change, because the human being is a very complex creature. Be thankful for your blessings, truthfully question what you deem lying or cruel, but do humbly exercise patience or restraint as people are different and in different situations at times. In my opinion, the system with least lying and cruelty is best. We can endlessly debate which one is more intelligent or stupid, but it is easier to gauge your lies or cruelties than your stupidity. If millions of women are 'happily' married in polygamy, then who am I to focus on 'preferences' or those who are not happy for good or bad reasons? I do not think every woman or man deserves to be happy or get their so-called preferences. What percentage of monogamous women are not happy or terrible? Our secular world may gauge happiness, but the test may be even more than happiness or earthly happiness. Even Trump and Epstein professed 'belief' in monogamy, but practiced what beyond formalities? From sexual power to choices, the average westerner knows the west is not a winner. Be careful, even if five percent of westerners are sexually blessed, then your personal blessings matter much more. Are you free of sexual lies or cruelties, think you can corrupt a just God on sins between creatures, or comfortable with a lower hell than which westerners or xyz? I cannot claim high sexual blessings, because things are much deeper than the long nice sex I enjoyed or my present sex-free life. May God bless Showlove Trinity: let's learn, let's work, let's have fun.

By Jarga Kebba Gigo
An Activist and Transformer
Author of Juts Quhr-aahn

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