Digital Vs Analogue Love And Women, The Centre Referee

Selfishness and barbarism are Siamese twins; our grand-parents would recollect how barbaric the Colonial Era was. Generation of people can change you know. I buttress this with the fact that the white man that was very selfish during the slave-trade has been transformed and refined so much so that Africans need to emulate some of his qualities.

Qualities like transparency and accountability in governance; of course there are many things the white man needs to learn from Africans as well for no race is complete and independent on its own. Therefore, no culture should be a 21st century holocaust to other cultures. Mecca and Jerusalem are renowned for pilgrimage tourism, Europe, America and India for medical tourism, while Africa is the undisputed home of cultural tourism.

The clime is blessed with peoples of various tribes, diverse tongues. It's a land, an island, a hub of human gallery. Each tribe has its own language, food, music, deities, festivals, sports, ceremonies, markets, architecture, arts and literature, religion and mode of worship, legends and folklore.

This is Africa. The land where the sun reigns providentially, where the rains smile majestically, where the valleys sing and the hills dance. The cascades do gymnastics with peace, bliss. The flowers and meadows with their lush hues of serenity and tranquility. Oh, what a picturesque!

Catalogue of unique yet similar, familiar people from the Tswana tribe of Botswana to the Igbo race of Nigeria, from the Gurunsi ethnic group of Burkina Faso to the Bambara people of Mauritania. Indeed Africa is the Archeology, Anthropology and tourism capital of the world. Why lose your beauty, identity oh Africa?

Africans are brilliant, hard-working and largely tolerant peoples; I believe some day the average black man in Africa would become selfless and emancipated. Selflessness, civilisation and advancement are triplets.

Centuries ago a typical man would not come to woo and possibly win the love of a woman he might kidnap and marry her automatically. This sex crime, human rights violation at its height was practised across the world. Mind you, I'm not talking about elopement where the couple agrees to abscond and did abscond. I'm not an alarmist but as alarming as it may sound, Marriage by Capture is still being practised in some countries in our present world.

Now women have varieties and choices at their disposal. If you're so passionate about towering height then you politely reject a diminutive man and go for a tall man and vice-versa. Interestingly however, MANY women never had choices not even a single choice at a time in history. Then Bride Kidnapping better still Marriage by Abduction or capture was the trend and tradition.

So if 'your' woman is playing too hard-to-get please email me and we would organise a peaceful protest, carrying placards against this 'injustice.' In fact, we may decide never to woo them again. Let's pause at this juncture, if there were no men in this world what would happen? Perhaps life would be too hard and finally turn to rock. Conversely, if there were no women, probably life would be too soft and change to gel. Rock or gel we want neither! Humanity has evolved and things have changed now and still changing and life is more interesting and engaging.

(The following information was adapted from my novel)

Encyclopedia of Men's Wooing Antics.
With the advent of the social media and the like the wooing antics of men had been digitalised but the long and short of it is that men still meet women they had never met before and may not meet again unless they avail themselves of the opportunity at hand, to this end majority of the antics here are erected on this pedestal, even those who meet on social media, the friendship has to start with communication. In this age, wooing is not the exclusive preserve of men, nonetheless women do theirs in a coded-verbal or non-verbal language.

The Engaging Lines.
“Good morning baby angel. I'm sorry to accost or embarrass you but you were like a pretty butterfly fondling and kissing a beautiful flower. I believe you'd agree with me that that scene is irresistible. That's exactly why I couldn't resist you. Now would you blame me? If you were in my shoes you will do exactly the same ….”

The Business-Like Lines.
“Hi pretty, I'm Guy Jack, may I meet you?” The lady refused to answer and so he went on. “You see, the moment I saw you, my heart told my mind, 'This is the woman you've been waiting for all your life' I like you and I'll like to be your friend ….”

The Spiritual Lines.
“Sister, God bless you! I'm brother Segun, God has been showing you to me in my dreams for the past three weeks; in fact, last night I saw you again in my dreams. God told me specifically that you'd be my wife. Hallelujah! He even said you'll make my ministry grow beyond the shores of Nigeria and you'll give me great and wonderful children ….”

The Arrogant Lines.
“Woman, you're not bad looking. Women run after me like ants to sugar, monkeys to bananas, cats to milk but I don't look at them twice. The same guy that babes run after I believe you know shouldn't be running after you. A great opportunity has come your way today, I'm sure you won't let it slip by because opportunity comes but once. So give me your mobile no or whatever ….”

The Empathy Lines.
“Princess, nice to meet you. Every woman secretly prays for her Prince Charming, here I come. You've been a princess for a while, Roberto is here to make you a queen, change your title from Miss to Mrs. and transform you from a lady to a woman. Please accept me as a friend, first and foremost ….”

The Daring Lines.
“Chi … I know you're an Igbo lady and many if not most Igbo babes and ladies' names start with Chi, so pardon me if I didn't complete the name. I'm Kola. I'm going to a conference, so please quickly give me your mobile no. It's a case of love at first sight because you're my kind of woman ….”

The Cajoling Lines.
“Good morning, darling. I'm Edin, I've been seeing you on this street for months but I wasn't game enough to approach you for fear of rejection. That's what prevents many men from expressing their feelings. I know you ladies don't usually respond to men who approach you on the street for the first time for fear of being labeled cheap. PLEASE. Don't do this in my own case. I've been transferred to Sarajevo and I may not see you again. In fact, this is the first time in my life that I'll approach a woman for love and I'm 25. I may not have another opportunity so please. I beg you in the name of God, accept me and embrace my love. Please give me your contact, I need a wife in my life ….”

The Blackmailing Lines.
“Hey, here comes my wife-to-be! The gorgeous, fabulous mother of my adorable children. Denise, (Denise was a neighbour who lived seven houses from the young man trying to woo her) My mum had been on my neck for months on the need for me to marry and settle down so I told her last week that you are the one. I'm sorry for I've never expressed my love for you. She insisted that you must visit her this weekend. Denise, I love you, please come see my mum. I must marry you because I already told her you're my fiancée ….”

The Boyish Lines.
“Hey babe, what's up? I'm Chuks. I'm an importer-cum-exporter and an industrialist. I live in Lekki, here in Lagos, I cruise the latest SUVs, own two plush hotels in Accra, have interests in oil and gas in Texas, tourism in Dubai and Calabar, Nigeria. I've landed and housing properties in Lagos, Abuja and Port Harcourt and I've my exclusive rooms in posh hotels in Paris, Berlin, Milan, Sydney, New York, Acapulco, Manchester and the Bahamas. Come into my life and I'll spoil you with money. I'll treat you like Queen Elizabeth ….”

Learn to love with your heart and think with your head in your relationships and don't engage in reckless lifestyles. Love and relationships are part of life and this article is not in any way whatsoever encouraging promiscuity.

The week is now middle-aged please keep enjoying and enjoy till its twilight and beyond!