THE PROMISE RING-IS IT A REAL PROMISE?
By Charles Nii Ayiku
Feature Article | Thu, 27 Jul 2006
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Wearing a promise ring is one exciting thing most ghanaian young ladies can be proud of.Some of them see a relationship without a promise ring as a not too serious one.For some ladies to be sure of the man's love for them, the man has to give her a promise ring.But then,has the promise ring kept its promise?
Generally, a promise ring is a ring usually given to a girlfriend or fiancée, to promise to be committed in a serious relationship. These indicate that serious courting is under way and also a possibility of a future marriage.This ring is usually worn on the middle finger on the left hand, in certain cases, the seriousness of the relationship is judged by the cost of a promise ring and the gem.
In Ghana you are likely to find young people especially ladies wearing promise rings as a sign of their commitment to a man. Generally speaking, however, promise rings are uncommon except for the very young.
Also in some cases, but not all, a promise ring may take the place of an engagment ring in the most serious of relationships among young adults. This is often because one or both of the partners are either too young to legally be wed under the law or simply not ready.
In my quest to understand this issue of promise ring, I spoke to some young people. These are some responses I gathered from these young ladies in and around Osu, Latebiorkoshie Dansoman, Mataheko, Tema when I discussed with them the issue of promise rings.
They are students in Senior Secondary Schools and some, tertiary institutions.
-“I have been with my boyfriend for several years. He gave me a ring after a year of dating and I really love it! Therefore if someone is willing to entrust a ring to you then you know you're worth the world to him.”
-“Promise rings for me I think are cute if you are serious about the relationship”.
-“I have been with my boyfriend for about a month if he were to give me a promise ring for future engagement I would be glad, at least it will show his love for me”.
-“Speaking for myself I think a promise ring is great.... but that's if it has meaning. My boyfriend bought me a promise ring 3 years ago and I love it. I think it's just a symbolic way of saying "I promise to love you with all that I can and I promise to be faithful only to you"
-“I will love to have one. I think it would be so nice but if my parents saw that they would kill me but other than that I think it's sweet”.
-“Promise rings are great if you are in love and you are old enough to understand them. I am only 18 and my boyfriend is 26 and he gave me a promise ring and I thought about it a long time before I accepted it because I didn't want to get into something i wasn't ready for. See if you do that and you know what a promise ring really means then it is fine but if you are young then they don't really work, someone will just get hurt. Promise rings are great and my promise ring is more then wonderful”.
-"It is very ridiculous, because it's really hard to tell how your life is going to be when you are that young. And believe it or not I have a boyfriend and I would really like to marry him but I am not going to attach myself to an idea that I don't even know about, it really just depends on what God's plan is for the two of us”.
-“Getting promise rings in Secondary school is so stupid. Come on, you're young, naive, and in a relationship, so you think the best thing to do is get a ring promising that you'll be together forever? I know plenty of guys who gave their girlfriends promise rings and were cheating on them behind their backs”.
When you're still with the person, it's kind of like a wedding ring; it's a very personal and sentimental band of love around your finger to remind you of your guy all day. But what happens if you break up? Believe me; it gives you more trouble than you could ever ask for.
“I think they're retarded. You cannot promise to be with somebody forever. If you're going to be in that serious of a relationship, be properly engaged with all the marriage ceremonies done”. -“You can't promise how you are going to feel about someone in the future because you never know. I have a promise ring from an ex-boyfriend that is really pretty, but I'm never going to wear it because I will only think of how silly he is! So it's a waste of a pretty ring”
In fact talking to these young people was for me exciting, and I really learnt a lot from our discussions. I was also surprised how young people between 15 and 18years were so much into love and relationships. Well, those were their opinions and opinions expressed by other young people, how about you?
I later asked my self the question, is it a real promise and has the promise ring kept its promise? What do you think?
AUTHOR:CHARLES NII AYIKU
EMAIL:ayiku13@hotmail.com Source: Charles Nii Ayiku
Generally, a promise ring is a ring usually given to a girlfriend or fiancée, to promise to be committed in a serious relationship. These indicate that serious courting is under way and also a possibility of a future marriage.This ring is usually worn on the middle finger on the left hand, in certain cases, the seriousness of the relationship is judged by the cost of a promise ring and the gem.
In Ghana you are likely to find young people especially ladies wearing promise rings as a sign of their commitment to a man. Generally speaking, however, promise rings are uncommon except for the very young.
Also in some cases, but not all, a promise ring may take the place of an engagment ring in the most serious of relationships among young adults. This is often because one or both of the partners are either too young to legally be wed under the law or simply not ready.
In my quest to understand this issue of promise ring, I spoke to some young people. These are some responses I gathered from these young ladies in and around Osu, Latebiorkoshie Dansoman, Mataheko, Tema when I discussed with them the issue of promise rings.
They are students in Senior Secondary Schools and some, tertiary institutions.
-“I have been with my boyfriend for several years. He gave me a ring after a year of dating and I really love it! Therefore if someone is willing to entrust a ring to you then you know you're worth the world to him.”
-“Promise rings for me I think are cute if you are serious about the relationship”.
-“I have been with my boyfriend for about a month if he were to give me a promise ring for future engagement I would be glad, at least it will show his love for me”.
-“Speaking for myself I think a promise ring is great.... but that's if it has meaning. My boyfriend bought me a promise ring 3 years ago and I love it. I think it's just a symbolic way of saying "I promise to love you with all that I can and I promise to be faithful only to you"
-“I will love to have one. I think it would be so nice but if my parents saw that they would kill me but other than that I think it's sweet”.
-“Promise rings are great if you are in love and you are old enough to understand them. I am only 18 and my boyfriend is 26 and he gave me a promise ring and I thought about it a long time before I accepted it because I didn't want to get into something i wasn't ready for. See if you do that and you know what a promise ring really means then it is fine but if you are young then they don't really work, someone will just get hurt. Promise rings are great and my promise ring is more then wonderful”.
-"It is very ridiculous, because it's really hard to tell how your life is going to be when you are that young. And believe it or not I have a boyfriend and I would really like to marry him but I am not going to attach myself to an idea that I don't even know about, it really just depends on what God's plan is for the two of us”.
-“Getting promise rings in Secondary school is so stupid. Come on, you're young, naive, and in a relationship, so you think the best thing to do is get a ring promising that you'll be together forever? I know plenty of guys who gave their girlfriends promise rings and were cheating on them behind their backs”.
When you're still with the person, it's kind of like a wedding ring; it's a very personal and sentimental band of love around your finger to remind you of your guy all day. But what happens if you break up? Believe me; it gives you more trouble than you could ever ask for.
“I think they're retarded. You cannot promise to be with somebody forever. If you're going to be in that serious of a relationship, be properly engaged with all the marriage ceremonies done”. -“You can't promise how you are going to feel about someone in the future because you never know. I have a promise ring from an ex-boyfriend that is really pretty, but I'm never going to wear it because I will only think of how silly he is! So it's a waste of a pretty ring”
In fact talking to these young people was for me exciting, and I really learnt a lot from our discussions. I was also surprised how young people between 15 and 18years were so much into love and relationships. Well, those were their opinions and opinions expressed by other young people, how about you?
I later asked my self the question, is it a real promise and has the promise ring kept its promise? What do you think?
AUTHOR:CHARLES NII AYIKU
EMAIL:ayiku13@hotmail.com Source: Charles Nii Ayiku
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THE PROMISE RING-IS IT A REAL PROMISE?
marilyn | (United Kingdom) | 8/4/2006 4:54:00 PM
personally i think promise ring isnt anything to be proud of cos i know a lot of people who are disappointed in many relationships eventhough they were given rings.all that matters is the heart.thanks
THE PROMISE RING-IS IT A REAL PROMISE?
Etse | (United States) | 8/3/2006 10:03:00 PM
Good one there Charles. I think the concept has to be rethought. Not a lot of people talk abt it these days but as a tool for social control and moral watch your sure bet is that it is a positive act. Question is, will continuing modernisation and seeming westernisatio(whatever that is) erode such age long practises. The institution of marriage no matter how old cuts across al cultures, reliions and races as sacred and all acts that seek to promote such an image should be very much welcome. Good job!
THE PROMISE RING-IS IT A REAL PROMISE?
prissy | New york-United States (United States) | 6/22/2007 3:42:00 PM
i dont belive a person who is till trying to discover themselve know who they are going to love in many years from now. as people grow up and move ahead in life, they discover new people and sometimes they fall in love with them. then what happen to the partner that gave ypu the promise ring? personally i dont condone the idea of promse ring because i hold t the sanction that God's own time is the best
