10 Signs That Your Marriage Is Drifting

“ The beginning of strife is as when one letteth out water, therefore leave off

contention before it be meddled with. Proverbs 17:14

To drift in marriage simply means to gradually and slowly end your marriage, without intention to do that. Almost every marriage starts to drift immediately the honey moon is over, due to the carelessness of the people involved. Bonding or intimacy is the opposite of drifting. You need to know the signs of a drifting marriage so that you can be proactive whenever you notice them in your own marriage.

They are:
   The intimacy is not just there like it was before. I am not referring to the puppy love with a lot of “chemistry” and “torpedoes” that teenagers experience. No, the so-called “chemistry” is not meant to last forever; it is a phase in your relationship. But, there should still be that closeness, spark or “electricity” you feel whenever you are together. There should be loving gestures like the holding of hands, hugging, back rubs, jokes and playfulness. If there is none of these in your marriage; your marriage is drifting.

You are not free to express your mind to each other. If your conversation becomes short or simply non-existent, your marriage is drifting.

If you don't miss each other like before, that is a c-caution.

You argue on virtually every issue. It is a sign that your mind and souls are no more connected.

You easily hurt each other.
Sex becomes a task or a chore for the woman.
You are spending less and less time together. You prefer staying in the office or with friends than with your spouse. In fact, you feel at home at work and feel at work at home. When at home, the man prefers watching the television or surfing the net to being with the wife, while the woman prefers to be in the kitchen or with her children.

You keep secrets from each other.
You fight a lot over money.
You now live together like roommates not like soul mates.

 
 
Bisi adewale is an international conference speaker on marriage and family life, the author of these best selling books: Secrets of an Irresistible Wife , Hot and Sizzling Marriage , 20 Highways to a successful  Marriage , Before you say I Do , and more than 60 other best selling books on marriage and family life.

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