Handling Argument In Marriage

Disagreements leads to argument, and argument leads to quarrel, quarrel results in conflict and conflict leads to violence. Since couples have different personalities with different temperaments, background, gender and biological make-ups, they are likely going to see things differently, an as well as act and react in their own ways different from what their spouse wants.

Therefore, there will be argument:             

Argument on its own is not bad until we handle it wrongly. In fact, any marriage that is free of argument shows one of the partners is unnecessary. It is either the husband is a 'yes husband' or the wife is a 'yes wife'. What we need to learn now is how to argue positively whenever we disagree.              

What it means to argue                             

- it means to disagree with someone verbally. To state, giving clear reasons that something is true, should be done, etc. To persuade someone to do or not do something.

Types of argument.
(1) Face saving argument: – this is to continue to argue when you know that what you are saying is not really true or (right, but just to save your face before your spouse. It is very common among husbands. They always want to have {their way even when they are wrong. (they argue to save face and to prove they are the head.

(2) Blind argument: – to argue when none of you is having the fact.

(3) One-sided fact argument: – to argue when your spouse is having a solid fact but you are not really sure of your own fact.

(4) Distorted fact argument: – to argue when both of you are wrong and none of you have the facts.

(5) Conflicting facts argument:­ to argue when both of you are having facts argument and you pressure your fact is right without bothering to reason with your partner.

(6) Dirty argument. This means to attack your spouse, his/her family, job, etc verbally as you argue, thereby leaving the subject of the disagreement to fight your spouse.

(7) Positive argument: – to state your own case, listen to your spouse and jointly take a decision on what to do.

 
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