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15.06.2012 Home & Food

Who Is Having The Last Laugh?

15.06.2012 LISTEN
By Helpful Hints By Asantewaa Tweedie - Daily Graphic

Don't get carried away by insisting the housewife is wasting her life. Rather let her come to you, and seek advice.

Here is a perfect example; I met a Rwandan woman who has five children. She is very hard working and mature in many ways. Langwadi (call her Lang for short) needed to talk to me. I invited her over to my house and she opened up.

This woman is still carrying hurt and guilt from losing her infant in a refugee camp in Tanzania. Lang had two daughters at the time and needed money to buy food for her children. She got a job in a shop and left her two little girls with someone. She went to the camp one afternoon just to check on the children and found them eating mud. Lang was shocked by the discovery.

When the baby was sick at some point she just continued to work. She would leave a pain reliever with the nanny and tell her to give some to the baby when the fever got high. Lang said it was stupid of her and very inconsiderate. One day she returned from work and the baby was so weak she could barely sit. Lang rushed the baby to the hospital where she died. She was buried somewhere in the woods; she describes with agony and regret.

Lang confessed that the money she earned was not even sufficient to keep the family. She asked a rhetorical question; why didn’t I just quit the job? My children needed a mother to care for them but I was too consumed with material wealth I killed my baby. I just listened and said my silent prayer for her.

She is hurting and cannot accept forgiveness from God or another woman. Lang vowed to be attentive in future and so when she had more children she chose to stay home. Lang started to struggle with the issue of not giving to society; that is if she has a great education then she ought to share her talents with the world.

When I have my intimate time with God he tells me His plan for my life a day at a time. I respect and trust the Lord as my compass in life journey. Some people act like the devil and contradict what God tells me is the best. I have stopped defending my lifestyle. I always ask God if I should let these pushers know how ignorant they are when their own lives are pitiful yet they have better suggestions as to how I should live my life.

Most of the time, God will beg me to be calm and gentle. Other times he will give me just the right words and they are so unique I brighten up with joy.

The fool says in his heart there is no God. Did you know that the night light is always on? Yes it is, that tiny bulb is plugged in a wall socket 24/7. During the daytime it is not obvious: it is just something stuck on the wall; very insignificant; yes indeed. Just like a housewife she is on call 24/7 and her efforts and inputs are unappreciated.

Chances are the housewife is content with her job right now (her crown is in her heart where no one can see).

Forcing your ideas on a housewife is a taboo. A proper housewife is very observant and can pinpoint the hair growing in your nose and the tar on your teeth but she will smile and wish you would mind your own business.

I can honestly tell you that I am every guy’s dream wife and every insecure woman’s nightmare and worse enemy. Look who is having the last laugh-me.

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