Don’t open up to your partners; study them for a while before doing so — Relationship Coach advises

Relationship Coach, Miss Constance Exornam has shared insights on the importance of studying one's partner before opening up about sensitive matters.

In a panel discussion on the topic, “Starting a new relationship: What to tell and how to say it,” Miss Exornam acknowledged the influence of the past on relationships, noting that while it is important to recognize and learn from past experiences, dwelling on them can hinder personal and relational growth.

Speaking on Accra based Maranatha TV, she said, "There are certain things I believe the past should be left in the past.

“We're in the present and we're trying to find our way to the future. So let the past be in the past," she stated.

She emphasized the need for open communication in relationships, but also highlighted the importance of timing and understanding when revealing sensitive information.

"You have to open up, but I think to be able to open up to that level, you should have known the person for a while," Miss Exornam explained.

She acknowledged the diversity in how individuals process information, which can impact how they react to personal disclosures.

"We process information differently. The way I'd open up to you about something and you'd take it as a mature person, someone else might take it differently," she said

In this context, she stressed the significance of observing and comprehending a partner's maturity level before discussing certain topics.

"So you'll study the person you're with for a while, understand the person's maturity level before you open up on certain topics or issues because they're very sensitive, and they're likely to process it.

“And it can make or break whatever friendship or relationship you're trying to build,” she stated.

Miss Exornam also touched on the issue of discussing past relationships, particularly regarding the concept of "body count."

She noted that while some individuals may not be concerned about their partner's past, others might find it significant.

"There are some, you'll have to tell them, but before you tell them, give it time. Study the person; “if I open up on this issue, how is the person going to take it?"

She emphasized that timing and understanding play a pivotal role in how partners react to sensitive information.

"Some people will receive the shock and then after a while, it fades off with more love and compassion. Others will receive the shock and then, they start making their decisions."

Meanwhile, she advocated for honesty in relationships but also advised caution.

"Don't open up to your partner entirely - the things that you think or believe that if the person should find out, it might take a toll on them, you can open up on that one but before you do, study them for a while."