Why does a woman cheat on her boyfriend who she loves with all of her heart?
Because she's stupid
I cheated on boyfriend but i didn't go all the way with this other guy. What made me do it was that me and my then ex-boyfriend split up and i was heartbroken. Then i met this other guy once, but although we kept texting each other, we never met up. After a year, me and ex-boyfriend got back together and although at first it was good again, i felt like something was missing and there was no passion or romance in our relationship. Also i kept getting upset with him if he didn't come to see me so on of those occasions we had a fight and this other guy texted me that he wanted to see me. I was angry and felt like i deserved some TLC an someone who gave their attention fully to me, so i went to meet this other guy and although i felt bad about it afterward, i didn't feel that guilty. i just thought "serves him right for not wanting to come and see me" and so i met up with him about 3 times and each time it was when i was mad at my boyfriend. But now i have realized that what i did was wrong. you cant have both. i thought "its no harm and what he doesn't know wont hurt him" but now i feel angry at myself for letting another guy get close to me when its my boyfriend i love. This other guy keeps texting me now to meet up again but am saying no. what if, i ever got caught? my whole life would be ruined and am telling you all out there, thats its tempting, but you'll regret it in the end. stick to the ones who really you for you, and not just for a good time.
Learn to selfish
One thing I never seen on any website I went to is "will it work out" not that this has anything to do with the question but if you're here, chances are you're in a position asking the question.
For me and my wife yes, it did work out. She fooled around on me and I'm still pissed about it 2 months later but it has opened up a few honesty channels for us. you as a person need to figure out how to make *you* happy. I had for a decade revolved my happiness around her. Now I'm a selfish bastard and I work to make myself happy and not much more. For us this was a huge eye opener. She realized she couldn't be without me, I realized I could be without her. Cheating isn't right and its never a good idea but you can recover. If you've been cheated on learn to be selfish.
Stream of consciousness
Well, I cheated on my 5 year boyfriend we met in college and fell in love. I never dated nor went out with any one before I met him, was always shy with guys!! I had a great time but things changed after we finished college. He went to live with his parents said he wanted to save some money before he could find a job. We just spoke on phone for an year and every thing was going well. Then I decided to apply to a grad school close to his place and was really excited to see him after an year. When I saw him I was really disappointed because he put on lot of pounds. He was slightly overweight before too, but now he was huge. I really loved him, and it didn't matter to me because it was him I fell in love with. But very soon I started realizing that he was a very irresponsible and lazy person, after college he was jobless for an year, living with his parents, just sitting in the house, and chilling and eating because of which he gained so much weight. I told him to find some kind of job need not be a great one. Just to make some money to pay for his gas and stuff, but he never really tried and he started borrowing money from me. I mean, no big deal. I guess we had that understanding, but my own financial situation wasn't that great. He didn't want to ask his parents since he was shy because he was already 27 years old. He was still entirely dependent on them, even to pay his phone bills. Then the problems started. I felt very insecure. I started feeling if I marry him I will have to be the one supporting the family. I wanted someone I could look up to, not an irresponsible person. He always took me for granted. He felt like he had me wrapped up and that I could never leave him no matter what happens. Every now and then I told him I didn't wish to continue anymore, but he would cry and get emotional.Then i would feel bad and go back again. I kept going back and forth all the time. I told him to lose weight, but he did nothing about it. When I got really mad and told him seriously he would cry, saying it's difficult and I felt sorry.............This happened for an year, and another thing I want to tell, though its personal, is about my sexual life. We had sex like 7 or 8 times. Initially I wanted to be a virgin till I got married but I let him. The sex was horrible. It was painful for couple of times and later it wasn't. But I never really had any fun since he was really huge and I weigh like 105 pounds. Then I met this guy who was taking a class with me, and we started hanging out. He was very hardworking, systematic, religious, and smart. He didn't look that great, but was health conscious worked out every day and was really strong and confident. I really liked him. I was seeing my boyfriend too, and we had a fight as usual. After he left, I called up this guy, and we started kissing did everything. We didn't really have sex, but he really turned me on. I liked the way he kissed me and everything. After like 3 weeks I had sex with him, but I felt really guilty because I never told this guy I had a boyfriend. My boyfriend thought it was my usual back and forth and he could convince me. He didn't know about all this. Though this other guy was great, and I really liked him and enjoyed the sex. I felt guilty and being with him felt so wrong, so I told him I didn't want to see him anymore. He was disappointed but never called me back. When my boyfriend came to see me next I told him about it. I told him I didn't want to be with him. He started crying, and we went through this whole phase of I hate you, I love you, I don't care. I was really unhappy to see him cry, and I felt like I was an evil person to put him through this. Especially when he said he knew he was irresponsible and took me for granted, but his love for me never changed. He always treated me like a princess, and he said he knew I was better person than that. He wants me back, and he is ready to forgive me. I resisted, but I don't know what to do....PLEASE HELP ME.......AND I CONSTANTLY THINK ABOUT THIS GUY AND HOW GOOD THE SEX WAS WITH HIM. I FEEL GUILTY, I AM CONFUSED ....... Well you really should not be to worried about the sex at this time!!! unless you belive that you have a chance for a good relationship with him and you want to loose the one that loves you most....If it is only about the sex you are looking for a long road of disater, and who wants to be called a slut cause thats all your ex is going to think of you, but its your choice.
No excuse for cheating
No excuse can be made for cheating. Its NOT beyond anyones control. Its NOT a mistake. It IS a choice. Saying it happened because something was missing, unfulfilling or ANYTHING else is an a cop out. PERIOD.
For any relationship to be healthy we have to be healthy coming into it. Cheating is a sign you're not, and thinking that you can cheat and "move on" like it never happened is simply foolish. You have decided to damage your relationship and those who love you. You chose to hurt them. That is NOT love. Once you have cheated the relationship is never the same again. The dynamic of the relationship has changed. You have invited another person into the realm of intimacy you were asking to share exclusively with your significant other. You have made your lover a sexual competitor! When you cheated you made a choice, a selfish one that placed your significant other last in line of your priorities.
So many spout "Forgive and forget"! People forgive, but they do not forget being hurt. It�s our nature to remember to protect our sensitivity. Anyone who can forget it like nothing ever happened is the owner of a very hardened heart. A hardened heart limits our ability to love openly and that should never be an attractive trait! Why, why ask your lover to harden his heart? Once hurt a person becomes guarded with you, opening up and talking to you leaves them only more vulnerable to injury. Trust and respect are earned and once you have cheated you have lost those. You have abused of them. Cheating is abuse and you will have to earn their trust and respect again before anyone will make themselves vulnerable again to you, anyone that is that really cares for you.
Healthy people in healthy relationships: Trust and are trustworthy, Respect and are respectful, give and receive love without condition or manipulation, are honest, open and vulnerable. Real love, real intimacy encourages it, fosters it.
If you marry and haven�t addressed your personal issues before hand you will struggle uphill daily and infidelity will terrorize your relationship throughout its life. Once children are involved it only becomes more heartbreaking and more painful.
The true tragedy of cheating is when you play everyone who loves you pays long afterward and it never had to happen in the first place. Cheating is always, always a choice that you made.
Take a break from each other
Why risk cheating on someone you love, if you really love them? I Did that make sense? Nope! So, if someone loves you they shouldn't cheat. We all flirt a little (don't touch and go home with the person you came with) because it's human nature to feel good about yourself, but cheating is unacceptable. I don't feel this person is ready to settle down and there is nothing wrong with this. If in your late teens into your 20's it's best to do things you want to do now (travel, date more, college, etc.) because it will be much harder to attain when the person is 30+.
No one should ever put themselves second in a relationship. You each should be important in each other's lives.
This person who can't help cheating on their boyfriend, but feels she loves him ... it's time to take a hiatus (rest) and stay away from each other for a few months until this person can decide what they want in their lives. No one should ever be hurt by their mate cheating. You can't have it all.
Good luck Marcy
Not really love, then
IF she loved him with all of her heart then she would not cheat!
Maybe she was drunk.
She slipped up
I belive that if you love someone you should not be even thinking of cheating on them so why take a break when you love them. This is just a selfish way of dealing with things I am sorry I could never take a break from the one i love and I would never think of cheating on them if I loved them. NC
Even if you love someone with all your heart you can still make mistakes. Maybe there was something missing in her life, maybe she was trying to find herself, maybe she had to be sure she loved him.
She was getting even
Maybe she was trying to get back at him for some emptiness in her life. Unfortunately, even the perfect guys don't complete you completely. Maybe she was doing it in self defense. If a person suspects of cheating, a lot of times the person may want to cheat also to avoid getting hurt in the future. In a way saying, "Well, he cheated on me but who cares? I cheated on him already!" Maybe she just wanted to feel good about herself????
It's a downward spiral
Hmmm well as a person who is currently cheating on a partner of 2years, I think it is possible to love your partner and cheat, BUT you definitely lose something. Whether you like it or not, the relationship won't be as good afterward. For example, if you are feeling guilty, then they notice something is wrong. You have to lie, which makes you feel even more guilty, or you have to pretend you are happy, which makes it torture for you, because you know they think things are going great for you. Then if you mix these two options together, as in one day you feel down and are a bitch to him, and the next day you are nice as can be, then he will become VERY confused. It isn't at all fair on him. You also lose some respect for yourself, and even if you end the cheating you still have it on your mind for a long time.
She doesn't know herself
I think these answers prove true, as I have cheated and cannot figure out why I would do this. I think, that it has something to do with the fact that I do not know myself. I am one year away from 30, and I have not traveled anywhere, am faced with possible marriage and also the fact that I started out dating at a late age. (21) I have had a total of 2 long term relationships, including the one that I am in. I have cheated on my partner with the same person in another province twice. I now realize that the person I was with is nowhere NEAR the great person my partner is, yet I agree with the person who posted the comment saying that I cheated due to the fact that something is missing from my relationship. I need to find out about myself and do the things I would like to do before I even attempt to settle down. The sex was the best I have ever had with this person, but something was missing from that summer fling. I realize that the person I was with was not a real friend. He used me, and I know this. He lied to me about a lot of things. There is no respect there. I feel guilty and now I must face the facts about the relationship I am in. I do love my partner with all of my heart, but I wonder if I really do. I wish, I could combine the two men together, then I would have the perfect man. That sounds crazy. So, I am thinking that maybe it is my sex life that is to blame. I have tried to show my boyfriend what to do to me, but I am less than satisfied with my boyfriends attempts to please me. (3 years of getting nowhere.) I think maybe sex therapy (counseling) might help us, and I am more than willing to look more into it for my boyfriends sake, because the person I was with will never make me happy as a friend or a person in general. I have learned something from this, but I will never be the same again. I do believe things happen for a reason,good and bad, so I hope I can figure out what it is that I need to do. Any comments?
My story: I won't do it again
I am a woman who has cheated on her boyfriend. I do love him with all my heart. Unfortunately it took the affair for me to realize it. And by the time I realized it, it was too late. If I could go back in time I would've never done it. I don't have a reason or an excuse for why I did what I did. I thought that I had feelings for my other partner. But after the men found out I only felt bad for lying to one person, my boyfriend. The other man was an ex-bf of mine. Oddly, I hated him for allowing me to get with him. I love my boyfriend (well now my ex) with all my heart and knowing how much pain I've caused him absolutely tears my heart apart. I haven't found anything yet that I can do for him to trust me again, and honestly I don't blame him. What I did was vindictive, low, hurtful, and just completely uncalled for. There really was no reason. I can guarantee one thing, I will NEVER EVER EVER EVER EVER cheat again. It was the biggest mistake that I've ever made, and now I'll have to live with it for everyday of the rest of my life. I will never forget the look on his face when he found out. It haunts me. Like I said the worst thing is that there is nothing that I can do to restore his trust in me. I honestly can't blame him at all. I know that he deserves better than me , but I still can't let go of him. My advice to other women: If you are ever tempted to have an affair, please think twice about it will REALLY do. Ask yourself if it is really worth it? You'll probably eventually see, it's not worth it at all.
No acceptable answer
I don't think there is an acceptable answer to this question. She willingly cheated, nobody forced her at gunpoint, she knows its wrong!!! But she did it, he did it!!!!
I believe that the answer can be that she has no respect for herself or others feelings.
If you take marriage these days (For better or for worse), there is no more worse because we get married knowing very well that if it does not work we'll just get divorced. I believe that this is the main factor contributing to cheating by Women.
We as society have lost our sense of commitment. A promise is not a promise anymore. Sad but true.
Think about it!!!!
Alcohol plays a big factor in cheating. I know this, cause I am very guilty of it. It has happened more than once. I do love my boyfriend, just that drink after another. not to mention acting like a complete idiot! well, this past weekend is it for me. I'm changing this behavior A.S.A.P. I feel awful along with a hangover from hell! So just don't drink if you can't handle it! OK peace out! and roll tide!
This is true I have cheated on my boyfiend while under the influence of alcohol, but the worst part is when I get really drunk guys take advantage of me and I consider it cheating because I am allowing this to happen by continuing to drink with guys that I know like me and have absoulutly no boundries at all yet they are still my fiends....its does not make sense and my boyfriend does his best to only allow me to drink when i am around him for my own saftey.
Why do I do it?
I have been in a relationship for 5 years and I'm almost 23 years old. I have never loved anyone else as much as I love my boyfriend. Things are not perfect between us, and when I go out and party I find that I enjoy being with other people. Although I'm not sleeping around, I'm doing enough to make myself feel like a horrible person. Its not fair to my boyfriend that I do this to him, but I just don't stop. It's too hard to break up with someone after so long especially when you still love and are attracted to them. Does this make a horrible person? Probably, but I'll have to accept the consequences if the word got out. I'm hurting myself just as much as I'm hurting him. So why wouldn't I stop?
Well I agree with the last addition. I feel that way! but should I??? I mean I love my boyfriend, but I want to sleep with this guy I know and I've felt like this for months!!!!If someone could give me some advice that would be great, but I think I miss the excitement of being single. But I know that cheating is wrong, so why do I want to do it so much???? I can't even think about my boyfriend without comparing him with the guy I want to cheat with. I think I'm a bit emotionally involved with this guy, and I've known him for 10 years!! Unlike lots of women, I've never cheated on any of my boyfriends!!!! I mean should I sleep with the guy and see what happens?? But who knows why women and men really do these things? We can't be that happy if we want to cheat on our boyfriends/husbands etc... or maybe there is something missing like excitement of doing these 'naughty' things, that we desire so!!!! Good luck to everyone.
advice would be greatly appreciated xxx
No specific answer
There is no specific answer to this question. There could be the fact that something is missing and you don't realize it until the opportunity to do something sexual with someone else occurs. It could be a lack of control when it comes to temptation. This comes from a person who loves their boyfriend more than life itself. Yet have I cheated once? Yes. Is there any real excuse? No. The best answer I can give to anyone is that people make mistakes. It is human nature to be fallible. Some would argue that if it were true love, there would be no room for those type of mistakes. But what you have to realize is that some people are more naturally prone than others to have self control. Self control is a characteristic gained from YEARS of working at it. Falling in love with someone is not always going to rid you of that fault if an opportunity to cheat presents itself. I am not trying to justify cheating. There is no justification for it. It is wrong. It is deceitful. This is also comes from a person who is not honest enough to tell the person she loves that she was unfaithful. Why? Because of another natural human fault, selfishness. I need him and I love him, and if I lost him I would not be able to go on. I am almost positive he would leave me if he knew. I have lied time and time again. I have become deceitful and blindly transformed myself into something I have always hated- all because of one drunken night. Cheating is something that will never leave a person's mind. It will stay with me forever. I will torture myself over it forever, or until I sacrifice myself for this one that I love and come clean. The most horrid thing about the situation is that although its severity and awful effect, it is one of the most common mistakes in the world today. The truth is this: the love portrayed in movies is not life. Cheating does happen. Love is not perfect, and it is not always blissful. Love IS the imperfections. Now, can you have true love but yet still cheat on someone? Yes, I believe so. Is it awful and one of the most regretted things anyone will ever do? Yes. Anyone who has made this great mistake by cheating on someone they adore with their whole heart knows that it is a mistake that will probably never happen again.
The main focus of this is that, love is not perfect and neither are people. Love is subject to error, just as people are. It is possible to love someone and make a mistake.
Just for anyone reading, cheating is never worth it. It is those who give into temptation against those they love that will suffer the most.
Feel free to comment or add on.
I did it, too, and I regret it terribly
I cheated on my boyfriend of almost 3 years this summer. I had no guilt at first which really surprised me. I thought I would actually be able to keep the thing going without him knowing. Well, he found out. The past few months have been total hell. We have gone through the break up phase, the back together phase, the I hate you, the I love you and want to work this out, the I don't know what I want phase (where we are now). He cheated on me to get revenge. And then a few days ago out of nowhere the impact of what I did finally hit me. I don't know what it was but I was sitting there and all of the sudden I just started crying and couldn't stop. How could I have done this to the man I want to spend my life with? I don't know. I am looking around on the Internet for some insight. I know that eventually he will realize that he deserves and can do better and I will really be paying for what I have done. All of my dreams for us are shattered. Even if we do work it out it will never be the same. It really hurts. My advice to anyone considering cheating is don't do it. Even the best sex of your life isn't worth hurting your best friend or yourself for that matter.
The guy doesn't give you what you need
OK women cheat because the guy is lacking in something! Its usually one of two things emotional or physical. Point blank period.
If you're the type of guy who tells your girl you want to spend time with her but somehow your playstation tournaments cut into that time- You're being cheated on!
If you're girl tells you that you guys don't spend quality time together- You're being cheated on!
If you're rude or unappreciative of the nice little things she does for you- You're being cheated on!
If she's just not interested in having sex with you period- She's cheating!
I just like sex with other guys and the attention
I have been with my man for six years and we are doing long distance. There is no one else that can even compare to him and when I am with him, there is no other, but when I am out I like the attention and I end up hooking up with them and even sleeping with a few of them. I love my boyfriend sooooo much, and I want to marry him, but I can't stop. I go through good and bad periods. He is really the sweetest and most romantic guy that has helped me through everything, and the sex is great. Is there something wrong with me? Do I need the attention that bad? How come other women can get through this? My friend told me today that he doesn't know how I live with myself and I don't either. Please I need some advice. Should I leave him, so that he can have another woman that doesn't do this to him, because I do not think that it is fair. Last night I went out and hooked up with this guy and today my boyfriend called me to let me know how much he loved me and how he was telling some other woman how much he loved me to the point she believed that there was a decent man out there. PLEASE HELP!!!
It's hard to break up
This is a tough one. There's no excuse for cheating although, as I've cheated on my boyfriend before, god knows I've created many in my head. What it comes down to is that something was missing in my life, and I immediately took it out on our relationship. I was emotionally unfulfilled, and he wasn't necessarily the cause. We've been together for 7 years (off and on), and it was rough knowing that if we'd break up, I'd lose a best friend and confidante as well as a boyfriend. As much as i hate to admit it, I'm more emotionally dependent than I thought I was. Let's face it, it's hard after such a long relationship to just let go. All my friends think I made a huge mistake by cheating on him with my ex awhile ago (who's a jerk by the way), and I don't know why I did it. Maybe it's b/c I had no closure when he broke it off with me about a year and a half ago or because I wanted to see how far it would go, but those are such lame excuses. I could have controlled it if I really wanted to, but what was holding me back?? I guess I just needed more time to figure out what I really wanted....this has been my only long term relationship and I'm only 23. Maybe the answer to why women would cheat on boyfriends they love varies with each woman. Some are probably not ready for a serious relationship while others are simply unfulfilled with their lives or crave more from their boyfriends. Either way, it doesn't make it right and the guilt is awful and not worth it. You're not only hurting the person you're with but yourself as well...trust me, you won't look at yourself in the mirror the same way again...like you're outta control and losing a grip on your life.
It's normal for humans to cheat
Well I can easily sum cheating up in one word. Normal. I spent a great deal of my time researching this topic of cheating to figure out me and my wife of 10 years cheated on each other. We both have different answers. My wife was a virgin as I was when we met in high school. We were each others' only sexual partner until I got caught up in a bad situation where I pulled the trigger and cheated. I didn't even think the girl was attractive, and I would go back if I could and take it all back just for that fact alone. Well I realized my weakness for sex was two fold... I naturally needed it and I would take a step down form my beautiful to get it if she want around. I see now it wasn't worth it and sex is highly over rated and plus I could never find the satisfaction through sex that I get from my wife.
My wife ultimately cracked and cheated as well and went a bit crazy while I was gone on a deployment...typical military marriage. She feels horrible. She let me know she was curious, I felt her pain on that. "Been there done that" I said to myself. Well after suffering the lowered self-esteem my wife firmly let me know though physically attracted by some degree to other males she could never get the feeling she has with me. See our problems were not what the other person was missing it was what we ourselves were missing. I hate seeing humans blame other humans for why they screw things up. As much as my pride wanted to leave her my love her said "this is why I am here" meaning that love is not only about happiness it is about sacrifice and pain.
Love hurts, and it is as normal as breathing air. If you want to conquer your fear of love learn what it really is. I here everyone talk about love but, I rarely see anyone practice it. It is OK for your spouse to cheat, hell if your relationship is solid enough I would recommend a little play for each side. Jealousy is a natural feeling, and it can be desensitized through applying the right techniques. I am glad my wife cheated on me. It set me free of the fear of being cheated on. You will be amazed how marriage or commitment can scare spouses or lovers into affairs or one night stands. The root cause of cheating is usually natural attraction. These feelings need to be exposed and exercised. I never understood why people have this expectation of a perfect spouse or partner. Ask yourself this question first without BS. Are you perfect?? the answer is "no" and if you say yes can you prove it?? That answer is "no" as well.
If your partner cheats be open minded. Let them know through emotional communication, crying, sobbing, yelling. I recommend if you feel physical violence do as I do, remove yourself form the situation and remember that the horrible situation that caused the blow up is over and decide if you want to resume the loving relationship. Sometimes people can not see through the smoke that is created by the fire of the infidelity. But remember humans it is an illusion. I guarantee your cheating partner loves you a great deal. They may hide behind a veil of insecurity, but it is your lover's job to find it and bring it out and let it know you can live happy after every bad encounter. And to the people who use the word torture while staying in a highly committed but troubled relationship. it is not torture when one chooses to stay. It may hurt but that is love not torture. It is not the end of the world either way, if the husband or wife cheats it i nothing but pain. Just stick to the message you and your lover created the day you fell in love. In the end you will be OK. I personal challenge any and all humans inflicted with this mental disease created by cheating to work and work hard. You will be amazed by the rewards you can weep.
Goals should be the focus of a relationship. Set priorities and help each other through the rough times. This is your best friend god damn it, before they failed I bet you would have died for them. You were not taken advantage of. The person at fault was some how coerced into the situation, the job now is to coerce them to carry on with normal life. Commitment has nothing to do with who you are or what you do, what matters is if you stay committed and are there at the end. It is a goal not an obligation. Just because you have one life to live doesn't mean you have to bail out when things get bad. In the end as long as you arrive at the predetermined goal you have succeeded. Perfection is non-sense. Stop judging one another or trying to figure out how to leave or feel better. It will happen in time naturally if you stay the course. Hope this rant helps someone like it helped me. I was cheated on um-teeth times and if it happened again I wouldn't even give a rats ass unless I lost my wifes love and I would still fight to get it back still. Good luck to you all. Sorry for the sloppiness of the above writing.
I was weak and now I am riddled with guilt
I have only been married for a year and a half, but we've been together for 7 years and lived together for 6 of those 7 years. One night, out drinking with the girls, I ran into my first love.... nothing happened. We talked on the phone a couple of times and text messaged each other a lot. This went on for a month and a half before temptation took over. After a night, again with the girls, and a lot of drinks, I did it. Cheated on my husband. I've never cheated on anyone be for in my life. I was (am) riddled with guilt and have come to realize, I never would have done such a thing if I was completely satisfied in my marriage. As great of a man my husband is, we are lacking in communication, passion, intimacy, and sex. My husband and I are trying to work through it and take it day-by-day.
He'll find out
She was hoping that he won't find out, but 99% of the time he does.
A few things
A couple of things: 1. You need chemistry, if you don't have enough of it with the one that you love, you'll go looking for it. 2. An awakening of the heart. 3. Cheating as a means to transition.
Women cheat with other women for the same reasons they cheat with other men. Because they can. My girlfriend cheated on me. As they say, past behavior is a good indicator of future behavior.
It shouldn't have been a surprise as we became involved before her divorce was final. I was a transition for her. This time around, her explanation for cheating, even though she loved and still loves me, was that there was something missing. Missing from whom is not clear, that and that 'i love you, but I'm not in love with you'. Before she left she was ready to date others. As you might guess, there's not much deep discussion with her.
It all came down to her last 10 days of a four month tour. During a 10 day stint in England she fell in love with a woman. She explained that the woman she cheated with opened her heart and as such, she is now ready to open her heart to someone she doesn't know and is safely incredibly far away. In fact, she's willing to give up everything she has to recapture 10 days of a vacation.
Everybody knows why they cheat, they just want everybody else to think that it was all so powerful and they were powerless to do anything about it. A crock to be sure.
No one chooses to do it
We know its wrong to cheat on a spouse/boyfriend, etc. But sometimes the heart doesn't always listen to our head. We all know what is wrong, and what is right. But in some situations that area isn't just black and white, there is a lot of gray there also.
No one wakes up one morning and says, "I think I'll cheat on my spouse or boy fiend today." Maybe in a relationship something is missing, no more excitement or maybe our spouses are taking us for granted.
No matter how long you are with someone, we all want to feel wanted, desired and not taken for granted. We all want to feel loved. And at times we are not getting that from who we should be getting it from.
Affairs, cheating and whatever are not right, we all know this. But no one chooses to do this. Sometimes alcohol plays a part, sometimes abusive behavior plays a part, and sometimes something is just missing from our lives.
Affairs-cheating do hurt people and ruin many peoples lives not just the ones cheating. Children in many times are the ones hurt most. Be careful.
Not one of you gave a good reason for cheating!
We can slice it, dice it, excuse it, accept it, but the total truth is, THERE IS NO EXCUSE FOR CHEATING! People who cheat (and it doesn't matter what the reason is short of date-rape drugs or rape itself and this is not considered cheating) are simply selfish! Selfish people want their cake and eat it too. To say, "Oh well, I was a virgin before we got married and I had a need to experience another man/woman" is simply an excuse. I can understand the feeling, but it would be better to communicate your feelings to your partner, split-up and go your separate ways and, should both of you grow up, then perhaps you can get back together on a more mature level or agree to separate for a few months and both get it out of your systems, but the key point is HONESTY and it appears most on this one post have forgotten that.
As far as girls wondering why they continue to try and attract other guys or go to bed with other guys when they have a boyfriend or husband, well, it's about "the grass looking greener on the other side" and it isn't most of the time. Every time you do this you know blasted well you like being youthful, feel you're attractive and love "the chase" and once the chase is over some women get bored and go onto another man. If that's how you want to be then so be it, but at least have the guts to split-up from your boyfriend or husband. Why don't you do this? Because you're selfish!
I've dated many men in my life and had quite a few boyfriends before I settled down and not once did I cheat on one of them. If the relationship grew cold I had the guts (or he did) to say it was over and we went our separate ways. It always hurt to walk away from a relationship because we often don't know if we have made a mistake. Still, it's the honest thing to do and if you don't do it that way you are letting yourself down big time. For those of you that are really disturbed by the fact you can't seem to help this, remember this ... "the head of the snake will turn around and bite you in the butt!" This means that one night you are going to get caught because someone your boyfriend knows will have seen you and you can bet they'll tell him and here's another thought, one of your girlfriends could have a crush on him and let him know what you are up too. I've seen that happen often. If you manage to have a relationship with another guy your personality changes and men aren't stupid and your boyfriend will catch on sooner or later. If you don't believe me look under all the other relationship posts and find the ones posted by men.
If you aren't true to yourself then don't expect it from anyone else. You will lose!
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