VILLAGE WISDOM AND INSPIRATION FROM GHANA- THE PAWPAW AND MARRIAGE
5/19/2012 1:10:17 PM -
Dear Family, Friends and Fans,
In Africa, we are so blessed with important natural cultural heritage to an extent that we seem to always be the focus of academic inquiry by many foreign institutions of higher learning. Do your research and it wont take you minutes to notice that most PhD earners come to study Africa on subjects we the natives do not give value to it. We live on a continent where there is vast amount of traditional wisdom that remains untapped for lack of documentation resources that many elderly people with great wisdom are passing without leaving or bequetting their knowledge to any one. The efforts of new group of media houses in Ghana today is commendable hence our choice of this media to entertain,inform and educate you the reader: Today we want to share with you some story we created out of our everyday life events and how it has a bearing on our lives:Continue Reading:
In our High school days in a very beautiful town of historic importance in Ghana, we ( MAA JIA and King Prekese) came across a road-side farm near Mfoumm where there was a pawpaw tree. What caught our attention was that, there was a sign hanging by one of the pawpaw tress which read"I am ripe for marriage". We were just easy go happy students enjoying life's fun so we never paid it any mind till recently when during a conversation, we decided to reflect on that and what significant message it meant to send to us: This article has been informed by this background and is dedicated to the ladies that are "RIPE" for marriage...
In the first place when a fruit on a tree is ripe, it just sits there doing its thing which is being a 'ripe' fruit & people get attracted to it. Like the fruit, dear sisters, when we get to the potential marriage phase in our lives, we don't have to become desperate, we just have to keep being us & the "good harvester" , responsible Mr. Prepared for marriage and Right will locate us.Like the public ripe pawpaw there are many and different types of people that would be attracted to the "ripe" fruit.
In the first category would be the ones that would pick up a stone or any other object of choice & start throwing at the fruit hoping they will hit it may be because they have a good aim or just hopeful persistence will pay off. The fruit can also get bruises & scars in the process but that's the least of their concern. As far as they get the fruit, they are good.(hahahahaahahah-----Do you see some men you know in this category?) Most times they get it but by the time they get it, they don't really value it because its been bruised (forgetting they bruised it) & in no time, they drop it & look for another fruit to "pluck". ( Did somebody say Players who keep changing women like mothers changing babies' diapers? ).
The next set of fruit seekers would be those who would use sticks or any other long object to pluck till the fruit falls.The risk here is also the same as the first in that bruising may & will most likely occur & the fruit gets same treatment as the one in the first instance.
Now there's another set that would come & just 'wait' hoping that time, chance & the forces of nature would somehow just cause the fruit to fall into their arms. One word "LAZY". These are also no good. They usually do not value the fruit when it comes because they didn't "work" for it.
Now this next set gets to the tree, beholds the very beautiful fruit & then begin to make their way up the tree. Now this sounds like a serious group that mean business. But then when they get to a "seemingly" comfortable height, they wait there & do one of the following:
they bring out the pebbles they have stuffed in their bag & start throwing at the fruits (group 1 Technique), or they reach for the stick that has been strapped to their side & start prodding (oh my God! Group 2 Technique) or they reach for the branch holding the fruit & start shaking it furiously hoping the fruit would "fall"(Group 3 only this time they are being the force). This group, well, yes they did "work" by climbing but its just sad because they are not finishers.
By the time they get down to pick the "fallen" fruit, its usually damaged & they don't have any use for it anymore(of course forgetting that they caused the fall that resulted in the damage).-ARE U RELATING WELL WITH SOMEBODY IN THIS CONTEXT......?????? THAT IS RELATIONSHIP FOR YOU:
And now here comes the last but not the least set... Here comes the "different" SET of ambitious determined ones... The ones that stand out. This set gets to the tree, see the fruit, get attracted to it, determine that they want it, count the costs & then set out to go get the fruit. They make the journey up the tree through the thin branches & all, taking all the risks to get to the fruit & when they get to it, they don't just pluck it, they observe it to make sure it's fully ripe, ensure it is actually what they want & then they pluck it & keep it safe & secure in the bag strapped over their shoulders. Then they get down, go home & enjoy the "full" value of the fruit.
Now ladies, put yourself in the position of the"ripe" fruit & let the different set of "pluckers" representing the men that come to ask for your hand in marriage.Which set would you prefer? Ladies please know your value. You are beautiful, made in the image of God & you are jewels of inestimable value. Please see through the masks and don't settle for just anything. Just keep being you and he that the Lord has made that will be willing to do the "work" will definitely come.
About the Authors:
MAMA J.I.A : Is a pen name for Ms. Joyce Ivy Ayisi, a graduate of KNUST is an Educator, Public Speaker, Women's Group Leader, Pastor's wife and a consultant for a Ghanaian NGO, the Centre for Human Development & Social Change,Ghana.
PREKESE GhanaMedia: Is a group of writers who conduct extensive research, document, share, archive and discuss topics, subjects and news of interests on Ghana and Africa Studies around the world.