The Chain Must Brake!

Doctors attended to her after she had delivered a healthy baby boy via Caesarean section. He was put on my naked chest to feel his heartbeat and bond with him. I was scared to do any harm to him while we were alone in the hospital room for an unforgettable half an hour. Six months later DNA testing revealed, he was not my son...someone else had impregnated my wife and she had pretended to deliver a child for me, one of my own blood.

In Germany each year out of 787.500 birth (2019) approx. 25.900 -50.000 - and potentially higher numbers - children are so-called "cuckoo children", children under the wings of husbands but not from their own blood and unaware of the truth behind the child´s birth. At the same time it is believed that in Germany 20.000-80.000 (0,1% of our population) Transgender live forcing the official language in any form of communication, be it job offer or articles, to state all genders possible as (M/W/D) for male, female and diverse. A strong lobby stands behind the campaign and legal achievements. 26.000 cuckoo children make 106.000 directly affected people each year (child, mother, biological and legal father). Grandparents, uncles and aunties get changed, some from one second to the next no more grandmother, others unexpectedly grandmothers; unprepared. Assuming the life of such a child reaches 80 years it can be assumed currently in Germany approx. 30 Mio. Germans are affected directly or indirectly, one-third of the German population.

This is not a new phenomena, it goes on in the lives of humans since men and women live, in all societies, in all cultures, at all times around the world with differences in the numbers and dealings with the situation of occurrences which can easily be stopped by women confessing to the husband while pregnant the child to be born is possible not his...in the end the truth will always find its way and even hit harder than the confession made well beforehand.

In Germany, the biological father has no right to ask for DNA testing when suspecting his married girl-friend might deliver his baby. The legal father has to go to court applying to be taken out from the birth certificate of the cuckoo child which is an additional emotional and financial burden. He can ask the biological father to compensate him for any expenditure made for the child but has no law by his side that can force the mother to disclose the name of the boy-friend making it impossible to be compensated unless by chance. If the biological father is unable to pay for the upkeeping of the child completely, the legal father stands in the position possibly to add up.

The legal father, in another court hearing (how expensive!), can appeal for getting access to the child from time to time once he can prove to be emotionally strongly attached to the cuckoo child. When the mother brakes up with the biological father he will contest alongside him for the right of visitation. One weekend with the mother and her possibly new spouse, second weekend with the biological father and third weekend with the legal father!? Three adults, each with different views on child education and hate in each others heart against the other parties involved. Which responsible legal father, during the precious times of upbringing, would give his ex-son such an emotional and spiritual roller coaster? King Solomon`s judgment about the true mother of a child guides any such legal father for the sake of the child. In many other cases, the children are teenagers or even adults before the truth comes to light causing equally emotional and spiritual pain.

In all cases, the mother walks away financially, legally and spiritually unpunished while hearts in ruins are left behind around her. Even in the divorce process, she gets half of the assets acquired during the marriage, not even cut short by the moment of her intentionally violating the legal contract signed at their wedding day.

Other societies, especially in Africa, value such women in a much different light and laws judge them in their own ways. Affected men have problems to pay for DNA testing and the involved legal fees. Social Media platforms are full of devastating confessions of men with cuckoo children, yet there is no national or international organization voicing their concerns and asking for laws that bring justice to the affected as well as the demand each child born should be automatically tested right after birth for their DNA and that of the potential father as well as pleading women not to deliver such children...as in the end no one is winning, but all are suffering.

As yourself: WHY?