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14.01.2019 Feature Article

Semen is sweet but a bright future is sweeter

Semen  is sweet but a bright future is sweeter
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These are the stories of girls, who let the prospects of love ruin their future. There is no Mr right who doesn't want you to be the best person you can be. No Mr Right is interested only in the exercises his penis can do in your vagina. Mr Right is madly in love with you, therefore respects your boundaries, emotions, feelings and your body. If Mr Right cannot see himself in the future you've carved let it go. Don't settle, God and the universe already has a better man for you.

" I was studying for a masters in a medical science abroad, and a friend introduced me to him. He was handsome and well mannered. I took a liking to him. Nobody understood why because he was the type of guy who asked every and any girl to sleep with him. I guess I thought I was different, special and he will settle only for me. I guess my short stature, curvy body, dark skin and beautiful hairstyles made me think I had already won him over. Before I met him I was a stellar student, always giving my all. Then when I met him, I stopped caring as much. He was a slacker someone who didn't bother much with school, or grades. He took me out to parties and he always wanted sex. In the end I only ended up with a pass in my Masters like he did, but in his case no one was surprised.

My grade on the other hand was a shock. I was one of five on my course to come out with that low grade. He was the only one on his course who only passed. Now my future career looks difficult. My career is one in which you need very high grades to do a PhD. As that's the only way you can get a job. I can't even go into research because my grades are so low. I wasted my Masters being eaten like fufu in the bedroom to satisfy by boo. I gave up my grades and my dreams for a boy, who was asking girls for numbers in local African shops while we dating and every one knew. I gave up my promising career for a boy, who has no dreams of his own. Yet I'm still with him" Lady A

" I was in my last year of my bachelors ( fourth year) and I had a dissertation to write. But I was dating a street boy and when I told him I was doing my coursework, he would get angry and tell me to stop and deal with him. I was so desperate to have a boyfriend. I didn't concentrate on my dissertation because it made him angry. I spent that time concentrating on him and the relationship. I even failed a piece of coursework excluding the dissertation, because I only spent three hours on it because I couldn't leave him to do my coursework. In the end I failed my dissertation and just scraped a pass for my degree. As I did very well in my third year. I missed out on my first and second years at university and the experience, because I spent most of it at guy after guys house, having sex with them in our pseudo relationships. My grades weren't as high as they could have been, because I was too busy enjoying orgasms. Instead of enjoying what should have been the most enlightening and freedom filled parts of my youth. " Lady B.

" He's married but he says he will leave her and their family and marry me. In our first year, he said by the end of the second year he will marry me. It's now year four and I am still waiting. I've paid for trips abroad for him. I give him allowance money and do anything he wants. My family disapprove, they think he has bewitched me. However, I know the love I have for him is real. I have had God knows how many abortions for him. One of them nearly killed me. I was bleeding in the bath. Thankfully, people in the house heard my screams and unlocked the bathroom door, before rushing me to hospital. I want children and know this is a dangerous road to go down. Yet, he convinces me to have the abortions. He convinces me to give him money and do all sorts of unscrupulous things on his behalf. He's told me to insult any man whose interested in me. I always do it. He calls me all the time. If I don't pick he thinks I'm speaking to another guy and gets angry. I can't loose him. So I do everything he wants. I've lost potential men, I may have given up my chance to have a baby. I keep getting hospitalised, due to all the stress of hide and seek, as well as me not knowing if or when he will leave his wife. The sex is great, even he thinks so. But is it worth all this stress ? Sadly I think so." Lady C

Stayed tuned for part 2
By Tuntum Nahana Akosua

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