Mothers’ Day, My Headache: Shadrach Korsah Writes

I was trying to find some special words for our mothers on this very special day. Whilst thinking about them, a monster appeared in my mind. Therefore, I decided to talk about this monster and not our mothers so that, we all can gather efforts to fight it for the freedom of our mothers. I fervently believe that fighting it can make our society a better place for our cherished and treasured mothers.

Unrepentant dependence on our mothers gives me headache as a student of society. Most of us want to depend on them though we earn some money. We spend on other people and liabilities and then turn back to waste their resources. Our mothers cannot also stop caring about us, because it is their nature.You know our fathers sometimes will not support that, especially when you have grown to some level.Most of us would not even help our mothers with the work they do because we think those works are below our class.

But it is within our class to part-take in the enjoyment of the money that comes from their work.After all the spending made on us, we probably do not appreciate. Sit down one day and calculate if even five cedis was spent on you each day, how much for 20 years now. That was an investment into us, to make our lives better so that they (parents) enjoy the surplus from us.

The sympathy of mothers is a source of unemployment in our Ghanaian society, to some extent. This is because most of us think we must depend on them if we cannot find jobs and even when we have one. The fact that they have the natural character of caring doesnot mean we must do that to them. It is time to start our own.

I do not condemn dependence on mothers, but dependence at any time must be judged by our conscience. If it serves us right, thenlet us move on. But you know some of us have internalized a conditioned mentality of dependency. Although our mothers care about us, we should never abuse their care and love for us. If we continue to be self- centered, then we are ruining our own lives. We should never expect the expected. Though they do not say anything, they lose hope in us and their ‘Hmm’ ‘Hmm’ is very dangerous to our existence on earth.

With this undue dependency, then we are celebrating our selfishness and their unending suffering and not their sacrifices. As long as this monster continue to frighten our mothers, this day is not worth celebrating. It is time to turn to our mothers. We should not wait till we have possessed the entire world before we take care of them. Let us take care of them now, with the small we have and the small way we can. Let us watch our lives and the ‘double double’ for our lives.

My special one (Madam Mariama Akosua Boabeng), Nana Ama Serwaa, Sister Akosua Asabea God bless you with a comfortable and healthy life. Madam Yaa Tailor, you are a woman, God bless you. And to all hardworking women of the Tuobodom community, God bless you.

Should our Mothers continue to care whilst we do not care?CHANGE IS THE EXPECTATION.

WRITTEN BY: SHADRACH KORSAH (KNUST, OLD STUDENT TUOBODOM SENIOR HIGH SCHOOL).