An Afar Wedding In Eritrea

Recently our Afar neighbors in Massawa, Eritrea had a wedding for their daughter next door to us. Being Afar (as in the Afar Desert where the earliest human ancestors have been found), an entirely islamic nationality, the wedding next door was a “girl wedding”, and as such traditionally attended by the women from both sides of the family.

The boys family had the “boys wedding” attended traditionally by the men from both families.

Living in ethnically and religiously mixed neighborhoods in Massawa several different ethnic groups or tribes were present, and the music which started out Afar quickly spread to Tigre, Tigrinia, and Saho. As the night grew late, the DJ rolled out the hits, almost entirely Tigre and Tigrinia, both Muslim and Christian music.

Being a Muslim wedding no alcohol was served, not even “sua”, a traditional form of beer made from kitcha, flat bread. But the men attending, with women from the neighborhood attending the “boy wedding” as well, simply walked around the corner to the nearest bar for a drink.

In today’s Eritrea religious and ethnic tolerance is the rule rather than the exception. Muslims and Christians party together, though Halal is observed and special goats are slaughtered for Christian consumption and vice versa for Christian weddings.

In Eritrea a Christian girl can marry a Muslim boy without upsetting the families in any major way, something that has been practiced for many centuries past.

These days with Eritrean children going to school together, attending the National Sawa Educational Center their 12th year of schooling, and fighting and dying together in the trenches defending their country from the Ethiopian invaders ie June, 2016 in Tsorona, there is little room for religious fanaticism. The people just wont tolerate it, never mind the proactive stance of the government which enforces religious respect ie no Da'esh or Pat Robertson “born again” foreign funded religious centers allowed.

Dancing together at a wedding, all mixed regardless of sex, age, religion, tribe, to the beat of nationalist songs praising the sacrifice all families have made in the struggle to win and defend Eritrean independence brings an almost spiritual sense of unity. A happiness, joy really, that while dancing with your neighbors brings feelings of brother and sisterhood that are shared amongst one and all. “Forget all your troubles and dance...Forget all your sorrows and dance...Forget all your weakness and dance...” we are Eritreans and proud, no matter our religious or tribal differences.

With 9 different ethnic groups in our country religious and ethnic harmony cannot be taken for granted. We have to many enemies outside our country scheming up ways to divide and conquer, and with all the problems our neighbors are having, we just don't want anything to do with religious fanaticism.

If our neighbors Eritrean Afar wedding is anything to go by Eritreans lead the way in “just getting along”, living together and respecting each others differences, practicing “Hade Libee”, “one heart” as we say when we raise a toast to our country’s independence.

Thomas C. Mountain is an independent journalist in Eritrea, living and reporting from here since 2006. See Facebook at thomascmountain or thomascmountain at g mail dot com