Let Talk About Sex And Prostate Health: What Men And Women Need To Know For Optimum Prostate Health(11)
This is the concluding part of the article. These days, we ingest and absorb more and more toxins than ever before. Toxins are in our food, water and bodycare products. Don't let them take up residence in your valuable prostate —so flush them out through more safe sex!
Doctors and urologists know the benefits of prostate massage. They used to do this for their patients to remove prostate fluids during a digital rectal exam because of the health benefits. Enlarged prostates were often treated with prostate massage. Fluids are released in this way without an erection.
This is also called prostate drainage or prostate milking and is quite healthy for the prostate. It releases stagnant fluids and increases blood flow to the prostate refreshing and invigorating the gland. The process can soften the gland and release tension. It was a standard procedure until about 40 years ago, and then the practice faded away, while the benefits are still acknowledged among doctors.
Massaging the Prostate Gland: Massaging the prostate gland involves two major ways: An external prostate massage and internal prostate massage. Now let see how they work
External Prostate Massaging: External prostate massage involves of straight force and gentle massage of the spot area (Also known as the perineum or male G-spot) also with the soft pads of your fingers or with a special device as available in the advance countries.
The perineum is normally a diamond-shaped area that includes both the anus and the genitals, and its borders differ. Keep in mind while giving a perineum massage that it's not just a superficial area; it's also quite deep. It includes the fascia and muscles in the center of the pelvic region.
Inside this area is the male G-spot. Yes, as men we know about the women's G-spot and we have spent some time trying to figure out how to stimulate it or probably asking our women to tell us their G-Spot so we can put them on a different ladder during sex so that they feel good, but how about our own G-Spot as men? Are we aware of our G-Spot let alone our women?
Our G-spot as men is found about one inch below the rectum near the scrotum and is a key acupuncture point. I am not saying you should insert a needle as I mention acupuncture ooh! Anyway, this is just by the way! Don’t think about inserting a needle there. As an alternative, let imagine our own - or your partner's - fingers! Hahaha! That is the acupuncture I am saying!
Once more, an terrible level, the male G-spot is the prostate, located possibly more simply through the rectum in an internal prostate massage.
However, ample of the same benefits can be had with an external massage. You may realize that pain will lessen, your sex life returns, healthy urinating patterns are recuperated, and you get up less and less each night.
You can always check with your doctor to see if male prostate massage is for you. If so, be gentle, slowly build up the times you spend doing this. Energetic massage can be harmful.
Some Tips for External Prostate Massage:
Let me give you some tips for doing the external massage.
Use some natural castor oil or almond oil to massage the perineum area while at the same time doing your prostate exercises, squeezing the pubococcygeus or PC muscle (the stop pee muscle). The permutation is very powerful and will bring much of the benefit of an internal prostate massage.
So get onside and locate your male G-spot. Again, it's about one inch below the rectum towards the scrotum. If massaged during sex, it stimulates the prostate for double pleasure. It can also be used to stop ejaculation if pressed deeply just before the angling point.
Do the perineum massage gently at first and increase the pressure as you go along. Then deeply massage the G-Spot, all while doing your prostate exercises squeezing and holding with deep breathing.
The Prostate Cradle is a wonderful invention that does the external prostate massage for you by just sitting. Highly commended, you will find this device a natural, safe and easy way to get the benefits of prostate massage.
An internal prostate massage
I quite remember one of my articles on prostate massage attracted a firestorm attack. Internal prostate massage isn't something many men sit around talking about over beer and I don’t know if you have heard about it. But now prostate issues have become serious issues in Ghana so let’s face it! It's been a bit of a taboo topic!
As 1 in 5 Ghanaian men will get prostate cancer in their lifetime, you can't take the chance of not knowing how to take care of your own prostate.
Remember, black men are more prone to prostate cancer than men of other race. Plus, it's not an old man's disease any more. More and more men are dealing with prostate disease at even younger ages so don’t take chances and say it is an old man thing.
Western men are facing prostate problems in epidemic proportions. Every year, approximately 6.5 million American men visit doctors for an enlarged prostate. In 2007, another 223,000 were diagnosed with prostate cancer in the USA. In the same year, 29,000 men died from prostate cancer. Not to talk about the UK statistics and Ghana case.
Time to stop making this a taboo subject, guys! There's no shame in taking care of your health. Therapeutic prostate massage is a very beneficial skill to have and to do.
Your health will benefit from prostate massage, both internal and external. There are two basic ways to give yourself, or someone else, an internal prostate massage: with fingers or by using a specially designed and very safe internal prostate massager.
Internal massage of the prostate can be done in a completely non-sexual manner or can be combined purposefully to have a very enhanced sexual orgasm with the combined benefits of the massage and the sexual pleasure.
Prostate massage can be done alone by oneself or by a practitioner who specializes in the technique or by a partner. Again it can be non-sexual or sexual as desired and chosen.
Perhaps the most fun technique is the one done by your partner! It can also be an amazing sexual technique, not just a medical treatment, as it heightens arousal and intensifies the orgasm.
Internal prostate massage works because of the adjacent proximity of the prostate through the thin rectal wall. Doctors and urologists used to massage the prostate in an non-sexual way to remove stagnant fluids and increase blood flow as a routine part of the Digital Rectal Exam.
This is no longer standard practice and is considered alternative prostate massage therapy. However, conventional medicine still recognizes the benefits of therapeutic prostate massage.
Always check with your doctor to see if prostate massage is for you. If so, be gentle, slowly build up the times you spend doing this. Vigorous massage can be harmful.
You can use your finger or a special prostate massager for the same purpose specially designed to use your pubococcygeus or PC muscles to apply the right amount of gentle massaging pressure. I much prefer the prostate massager device. They are quite effective
Internal Prostate Massage Is NOT Like the DRE!
Most men who have had a DRE, or Digital Rectal Exam, by a doctor or urologist have unfortunately experienced discomfort and often pain because of the very poor technique employed by most doctors.
If done properly and gently, the exam should be painless and quick. It is all a matter or proper technique, care and gentleness to give the anal muscles a chance to relax.
Let's face it — the first automatic response to the rectum being touched is to squeeze shut! If time is not given with very gentle pressure for it to relax, when the doctor inserts the finger it will hurt!
Too bad they are not properly trained. Always tell your doc to go slow so the muscle can relax before he pushes his finger in.
I am explaining this here so that you can get over any negative thoughts you have about doing an internal prostate massage. They can be highly beneficial to your prostate health and pleasure.
When you follow my instructions below, you will not experience any pain nor discomfort whether you use your finger, your lover's finger or the special internal prostate massager I describe next.
Added Benefits of a Prostate Massage Device
They are specially designed for the purpose of an internal prostate massage AND massage more of the prostate surface than you can reach with your finger. Designed to be the perfect size, the Aneros internal prostate massager prevents any injury by using your natural "stop pee" muscle, a simple Kegel exercise, to do the gentle massaging.
Here is how to massage your prostate internally with your finger:
Make sure you have had a recent bowel movement so your rectum is completely empty.
Have a hot shower or bath to get clean or even a sitz bath to relax your pelvic muscles.
Make sure your fingernails are very smooth and short.
Wear a good quality latex glove (available at all pharmacies).
Lie down on your back or side with a towel beneath you.
Apply lubricant-KY jelly or equivalent or a natural castor oil liberally to your fingers and anal area.
Gently press the pad of your middle finger against the anus so it starts to relax.
Move your finger gently in a tiny circular motion.
After a while slowly increase the pressure always allowing the anal muscles to relax as you then push a bit firmer until your finger starts to enter.
It is all about the right angles to find the easiest way in. Your finger should be facing forward some towards your front as you find the way in. Move it forward and back to find the easy entry point.
Once you get the angle right, it will slide right in an inch or two if you have enough lube.
Now just relax and breathe deeply while your body adjusts—these sound simple, but shouldn't be overlooked to get the most prostate massage benefits.
You can then very gently massage your prostate through the wall of the rectum by moving your finger in a “come here” fashion. It is essential not to poke your prostate by moving in and out. You want to gently massage the prostate by moving your finger tip in the "come here" motion, ever so gently.
Being very gentle is essential, especially if you have a prostate condition because too much pressure can be too much for the prostate and can injure its very delicate internal structure of membranes. So always be gentle, never vigorous. The idea is to give a gentle massage so that the blood flow increases and stagnant fluids are moved.
Eventually, you may start to see some fluid escaping your flaccid penis (a few drops or more). It does not matter if any fluid comes out, the massage is still very beneficial as it moves the blood inside the gland. Often after the massage you will excrete some fluid.
In some men with a very healthy prostate it is quite possible to expel quite a bit of prostatic fluid without an erection or orgasm. This is very healthy. This is called prostate milking.
After 5-10-15 (less time at first) minutes, slowly remove your finger.
Easiest Prostate Massager Uses Sonic Waves in Under 2 Minutes!
I have to tell you about this brand new device made by a doctor to treat his own prostate condition.
It is called the Sonic Prostate Massager and is easy to use because it is much smaller so it goes in no hassle. And it uses sonic waves that limits the massage to well under 2 minutes. (Don't exceed the recommended time as it really does do the job).
It increases circulation so that toxins are removed and the extra blood flow allows flushing and hence healing.
Designed just for the purpose of non sexual prostate internal massage this is the state of the art device.
Sexual Internal Prostate Massage
If you are doing internal prostate massage for sexual pleasure, keep all of the above tips in mind for maximum enjoyment.
What you'll discover is a great deal of surrender is necessary. It's an extremely intimate act and requires much trust and deep relaxation.
All of the muscles in the area eventually loosen their grip, including places you didn't even know you were holding stress and tension such as the deep gluteal muscles. Often we only realize that these are tight and painful when a masseuse digs in to our butt cheeks.
However, once you let go, you'll see that it all promotes such an incredible release - much more profound than experienced in most male orgasms. A prostate orgasm takes you to a whole other level.
If you are suffering from prostate problems, or even if you aren't, the internal prostate massage benefits are significant, healthy and stimulating.
What about sexual prostate massage?
No doubt about it: for most men, sex and prostate health can be enhanced by sexual prostate massage. You get the release of maximum toxins this way as well as increased blood flow and flushing with the extra stimulation.
All that is needed is the intention to make the massage sexual, either done by yourself or your partner. The best way to do an internal sexual prostate massage is with a specially designed prostate massage device.
So in conclusion frequent sex is good for prostate health as the more sex you have the more toxins get out from the prostate gland and it is a form of exercise to the prostate gland but however if you practice unsafe sex you can also contract STIs that can predispose you to prostate cancer. I also don’t think that the argument should be centered on the number of frequency a man should have in a month before you can cut down on your risk but it all go down on ejaculation so it can be twice or three in a week depending on knowing yourself! Till then safe frequent sex is good for prostate health so you can have more! See you next week and we will discuss on how your sex life can be altered after prostate cancer treatment.
Dr. Raphael Nyarkotey Obu:ND,MSc, PhD(c) 0500106570
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