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15.01.2009 Feature Article

Get back together

Get back together

Taking Steps To get back together.

When you've broken up with someone you care about you have a hard time thinking of anything but how to get your ex back. If you truly want this to happen, you'll probably have to make some changes. Whatever happened to cause the break up should be looked at. Was it something you did, or didn't do? Is it something that you can still fix, or is it too late?

If it was something you did or didn't do and you can fix it now, then fix it. Undo something, or do something you should have done already. Apologize and make amends. This alone might not get your ex back, but it's the first step on the path to getting her back. If whatever happened can't be fixed, then at the very least make sure she knows that you're sorry and that you'd change what happened if you could.

Now that you've moved past what caused the break up, the next step to get back together is to make her want you back. That sounds like common sense, but so many people don't do it. If the relationship ended with her angry, then you have to show her the you that makes her happy again. You're going to have to be especially patient and forgiving. Be as sweet as you can possibly be when you talk to her or see her.

Even if you're angry at the time or you feel far from happy, at least show her the most pleasant side of yourself you can. Make her remember your good qualities and what she liked about you when you were happy. If she feels you have truly apologized for what caused the break up and she sees your sweet side again, you might be able to get your ex back.

It's important to pay close attention when you see or talk to her. Listen carefully and don't interrupt. Let her express herself without jumping in and telling her how she ought to feel or what she ought to do. You won't
get your back.
by trying to boss her around!

You also need to pay close attention to see if your efforts are having an effect. Sometimes you can see that she's softening to you. She talks nicer when she sees you, and you have been seeing her more often. Maybe she even seeks you out more often than she did before. Or she seeks you out now after ignoring you for a long time. Your efforts to get your ex back are working!

Because she's so impressed with how sweet you are, she wants to be around you more. And that only reminds her why she wanted to be with you in the first place. Pay careful attention also if you suddenly stop seeing her as much as before, or she becomes distant or angry talking when you see her. That's a good sign that you're pushing and she's uncomfortable. Take a break and you'll have a better chance to get your ex back.

moshfrog
moshfrog, © 2009

The author has 6 publications published on Modern Ghana. Column Page: moshfrog

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