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16.10.2008 Feature Article

How to get your ex back

How to get your ex back

the following article is an extract from them back.html

No subject bar love itself has had more songs, ballads, novels, plays and movies written, performed, or re-enacted than “the jilted lover.”

But what do you do if it happens to you? Even more importantly, what do you do if you want to get your ex back to being a lover again?

The first thing you must do is realize that the emotional state and stress. is not a physical condition – although you may feel like death, you are not actually physically ill and you are not going to die !

Emotions can go into a “live wire mode” and every sense channel may feel “over-tuned”. Alternatively, the exact opposite can take place – you feel half dead and you just want to end it all. At this stage you probably will not be thinking straight.
You may think you have to
get your ex back.

RIGHT NOW. But pause. This is not the time to be making emotional decisions about the broken relationship. The first thing you must do is try to stay calm.

Many people who experience a break-up try to bury their emotional distress in alcohol or some other form of drug to “get out of it.” This is escapism or an unwillingness to face up to the overall situation. History is littered with broken-hearted alcoholics and drug addicts. You are not going to get your ex back by searching the bottom of a bottle … or syringe.

Because your emotions have temporarily gone haywire, any reaction or retaliation which you might think is appropriate towards your ex right now is probably not quite sane. The last thing you want to do is make a mistake that may cause you embarrassment at a later date.

So stay calm, don't overreact and don't do anything to cause an over-reaction in others (no matter how tempting it may be), particularly your ex. Equally, it is vital that you don't sacrifice your pride.

Sometimes the emotional distress of a break-up can take a considerable time to abate – or may never heal at all. That would usually depend on how you viewed your relationship with the other person. If you always thought that the relationship was rocky then your recovery time is likely to be shorter than if you thought you were both in a lifelong union.
But whatever the situation, there is always a workable solution. At some point, you are going to have to “take the bull by the horns” and decide on your next course of action to get your ex back – if that's what you want.
However, we suggest that you don't decide until you have got over at least the initial shock of being informed that “it's over”. Wait until some semblance of emotional stabilisation has occurred!
But IS IT possible
to get back together?.

The short answer to this question is yes! Show me a couple who have never had a bust-up and I will show you a union between a saint and an angel. There is always a workable answer to try to get your ex back.for more articles on this subject visit

moshfrog, © 2008

This author has authored 6 publications on Modern Ghana. Author column: moshfrog

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