Why Should Age Matter In Marriage?

Often, we hear a lot of people comment that age is just a number. Is it just a number or some considerations need to be made when planning to get married? You may be dating a man older or younger than you are. And you’re really wondering, am I on the right track or I’m treading on dangerous grounds.

Well, these are 3 reasons why you shouldn’t assume age is just a number when it comes to marriage.

Maturity difference among the sexes:

The undeniable fact is that men and women mature differently with time. Research has shown that the average female matures faster than the average male. This is due to the production of estrogen by the female body. It quickens the pace at which a fifteen-year-old girl will adapt to society and her environment, respond to responsibilities and demands of authority. Unlike her male counterpart, who at the same age may still be bewildered by soccer and have a seemingly less responsible posture. Granted that there are exceptions here and there, the fact remains that on average the female will mature faster than the male. So, when considering to marry, you should bear in mind as a female that, your partner who may be of the same age as you or probably just a year or two older may have a slower pace in maturity and responsibility than you will. And so ideally, it may be better to settle with a more mature man in this regard.

Difference in preferences and interests

While you may be thinking that an older man is ideal, you need to be a bit more cautious of the age difference. Why? Different generations have different interests and preferences. Imagine you are between 20 and 25years now as a lady. Then you consider marrying a man above 45 years. While you’ll be enthused about Sarkodie and Joe mettle. He may be thinking of some lit Rockstone tunes or Rex Omar’s vibes.

Don’t get me wrong. This is just one of them. You can be ages close and still have varying interests. That is fair. But when the variance is generational apart, you definitely need to start thinking of how to compensate for the gap.

Physiological wellbeing/Health

Physiological well-being and health status are some reasons that make age matter in marriage. As we advance in age, our health status deteriorates. With that, it becomes a little bit unthinkable for a young full-blooded woman to consider marrying a man nearing his grave.

And so is it unthinkable to marry a woman nearing menopause when you intend to have a lot of kids. The age matters.

Like you expect. Here is a personal take. Have a holistic look at the partner you intend to settle with. In terms of age, consider if your maturity is at par, you can reach a fairground on preferences and interests, and your health is not complicated by age.

A man shouldn’t be advised not to marry a lady extremely older, like say 15-20 years. And so, should a woman not marry a man of a different generation.

Exercise moderation in everything. And remember to call a spade a spade and not make too many excuses when age becomes a stumbling block.