8 Signs he's only interested in sex


He only communicates via text messages or emails

We all know that guys hate talking on the phone, but if you're never hearing the sound of his voice, that could spell trouble. "If I have hung out with a girl a few times and I'm still texting or emailing her, it's just about sex for me," says Jake, 28. Chalk it up to his lack of interest in talking with you -- and the ease of technology, a boon for lazy would-be players. He doesn't need to engage in a real conversation -- a couple of words here, an emoticon there, and he's in touch with you with a bare minimum of effort. Keeping his communiqués to emails and texts also allows him to steer the conversation towards sex, either subtly or overtly; he can be more forward than he would be in person or over the phone since he won't have to deal with rejection directly.

He warns you that he's not relationship material

Some guys inform girls about their disinterest in a relationship early on with remarks like "I'm not ready for a serious relationship yet." It can be easy to think he's just being honest and may eventually come around after he's gotten to know you. But don't fall for it. "Some guys always have excuses as to why they can't take the relationship to the next level," says Sherry Argov, author of Why Men Marry Bitches: A Woman's Guide to Winning Her Man's Heart. "But 'not now' means 'not ever.'" The upfront explanation makes it easier to break it off later. "When I just want sex from a woman, I drop hints that I can't be involved with her in a long-term relationship because my job is my number one priority," says Matt, 31. "Then, when I decide to stop seeing her, I reference the fact that I said it wouldn't work out early on." Bottom line: If he says he's not boyfriend material, know that he means it.

You've been to the same restaurant with him more than once in one month

Sure, he may say "It's my favorite place," "It's our place," or that he's been craving the eggplant parmesan. As sweet as that may seem, his motives are likely not so romantic. A quality guy will put thought and effort into each of your dates -- but a guy who just wants sex will make the weekly Olive Garden dinner a preamble to taking you back to his place (which just happens to be around the corner). Watch out if he keeps meeting you in the same place and doesn't vary from routine, Argov warns. "He's with you at the little Mexican place, but with another girl at the Chinese place the next night and another girl at the sushi place the night after that." He needn't pull out all the stops every date, but beware night after night of the same thing. Says Argov, "A player will go for what's quick, convenient and cheap -- just like his intentions."

He makes too many promises
It would be easy to avoid these guys if they said things like, "I want you to come over and have sex with me -- and then disappear." Rather, guys try to woo you with what they think you want to hear. "If all he wants is sex, he'll promise you things you haven't even thought of yet," says Argov. "Men know that by talking about love, fabulous exotic vacations, babies, houses with the white picket fences, women will give up the goods. He's fattening you up for the kill." So if there's lots of talk of big future plans very early in your dates, beware.

He only makes last-minute, late-night plans to see you

It seems obvious, but sometimes a guy can conceal the real intentions behind a booty call by making it sound innocent enough, citing how he's working late or has dinner plans with friends -- but that he really wants to see you. Then comes the clincher: a line like, "Can we meet for a quick drink, or maybe I could just stop by your place on my way home?" Sure, a little impatient enthusiasm is flattering, but if he's truly into you, he'll make plans in advance. Says Argov, "For the guy who's smitten, the anticipation of seeing the woman he likes is as exciting to him as the date itself."

He avoids getting-to-know-you talks
Everyone knows a relationship requires communication, especially at the onset. It should stand to reason, then, that a guy who plans dates that don't give you a chance to talk to each other isn't likely interested in a relationship. Says Todd, 35, "With girls that I only want to have sex with, I go out to lots of movies -- that way, I don't have to talk to them. Afterwards I can justify going home with them since we did hang out and had an official date." According to Mira Kirshenbaum, author of Is He Mr. Right? Everything You Need To Know Before You Commit, it should be apparent when a guy's interested in getting to know you. "He may also be sexually attracted to you and want to have sex with you," says Kirshenbaum, "but other things will have equal weight, such as having conversations with you about topics that you care about and interests you share."

He's pushy about getting physical
Some guys will say just about anything to get a woman to have sex with him. Ever hear any of these lines?

"We'll just cuddle."
"You're just so sexy that I can't help myself."

"My underwear is chafing me."
For the record: We hate just cuddling, we can help ourselves, and our underwear was fitting us just fine this morning.

He doesn't introduce you to his friends
If you've been dating a month or more, and you still have seen neither hide nor hair of any of his coworkers, acquaintances, siblings or pals, he's likely never going to bring you home to meet the parents. "I'll introduce girls I'm genuinely interested in to my guy-friends within two to three weeks of dating," Jake explains. "At that point I'm feeling comfortable enough with her to see what my friends think." Don't fret if you've passed the four-date mark and you haven't yet met his mom, though. "Some men won't introduce you to their families, because they're embarrassed by them," says Argov. Still, he should begin integrating you into his life within the first few months of dating. If not, it's a sign that this guy's into getting physical... and not much else. Consider yourself well warned!

Christina Johns | 5/30/2009 11:26:00 AM
I totally agree with this article i tak to a lotof mn on chat line internet and very few men talkto me on the phone. Mind there are a few who do text/phone and they do wat sex, so i only plan tomet the phone ones. Will lt you know if it is correct
Christina Johns | 5/30/2009 11:29:00 AM
I totally agree with this article i talk to a lot of men on chat lines & internet and very few men talk to me on the phone. Mind there are a few who do text/phone and they do want sex, so i only plan to meet the phone ones (who want to be friends first). Will lt you know if it is correct.
mahesh | 1/6/2015 7:36:00 PM
Hi shall we frnds call me
amy r | 12/26/2011 3:28:00 PM
so true
abcd | 7/30/2014 6:51:00 PM
Haha damm...wish i had read this article earlier! I got f**led by this guy who i thought loved me for real like i loved him, but i guess he just wanted sex -_- he did all the things thats mentioned above n now i feel like a total id**t! That piece of sh*t... M so embarrassed now...wanna crawl n hide somewhere!
Ging | 5/10/2015 6:51:00 PM
Its ok part of growing up
unknown | 4/17/2016 11:35:00 PM
I need u
atiti | 1/18/2015 8:06:00 AM
Yes He agrees but can it change to a good relationship
Whamdogg | 2/27/2015 1:07:00 PM
All iz tru ladyz if 95% time we only want sex and the relationship isnot what u all fink .. We are very good at wht we do dnt forget that
THEPINCH | 5/30/2015 4:51:00 AM
Whamdog, if you had half of that, you wouldn't waste so much time being replaced by something better.

Finding something better - more respectful, more open minded, and frequently larger in areas a man appreciates most - makes a diff.

I mean, seriously, you are a hit and run artist; a trip to the doctor on two legs.You REALLY think we aeren't using you?
Ali | 5/11/2016 9:46:00 PM
Whamdogg | 2/27/2015 1:11:00 PM
Scrap that 99% time we only after sex depending how good depends how long the "relashionsh*t" lasts,then we line the mext victim up
thepinch | 5/30/2015 4:57:00 AM
Boys like you are everywhere.

The only kind of girl you stand a chance with are very vulnerable, or very young. Hardly sporting.

You get it for one night; it does nothing for us; wouldn't know a clit if you were hit over the head by one.

You are our in-betweener; the takeout menu delivered to our door for free. You honestly think we don't have stuff going on? Tell you what. Here's a $10 tip. Now get lost.
Sara | 8/19/2016 3:21:00 AM
Well done!
maggie | 4/16/2015 1:06:00 AM
It's true o dear frnds for my guy i loved him more try than he do not knowing he, was just using me for sex ,and also after having sex with always rushing for me to live his house, he have finally broken my dear heart so pls i need ur advice
tammi | 7/27/2015 7:00:00 AM
That isn't always true by introducing your women to family and friends because in my last relationship i met all his friends and relatives then after 18yrs of dating I found out his with another woman
lulu | 8/8/2015 9:03:00 AM
I met this guy online, everything seems cool and sweet as first, He seems interested in me till we had sex. After that night he hasn't said a word.

what's going on in his mind.

I'm confused, should I text or call him or give him space.
hagar | 10/8/2015 1:07:00 AM
ma guy want me to have sex with him on a second date and im not interested so what do i tell him not to lose interest in me
MacKay | 11/1/2015 3:15:00 PM
Boys are jst boys
aw | 12/29/2015 11:36:00 AM
my bf had made very cute promises with me ..that he would never leave me ...etc etc...
bt when he went out of state for education he changed and later he just want sexy talks,, moves and whenever i told him that pls don't do that ...then he was lyk ...i am ur future hbby and u have to be frank wid me ..from now ..and whenever I talk to any other guy ..maybe my Street mate ...he used to abused me in a vulgar manner ....and he never sorry to me ...

i used to weep ..madly ...and i never talked to my classmates.. for him

bt aftr sometime ...he demanded for sex wid me ....i clearly told him that i am not ready ...so plz ..try to understand... i do lv u .bt can't do sex ..
because of my family limits ...bt he was like no ..i am going to listen anything. i want... so i will......it really irritated me so mch .that am i only for physical need....

then i clearly told him ...that ok ...u can find another girl ...sorry i can't satisfy ur needs ....bt i loved him so much ...Even when he abused me ....bt it seems that he doesn't have any feelings for me.....guys so tell me ...was i wrong????
Gurl | 3/2/2016 8:46:00 AM
No, you were right
Killi | 2/16/2016 2:45:00 AM
i agree sex is just the priority thn falling in love wth a grl giving ur 100%still makes men think as v r cheating on thm wth their past wht Thy hv gone thru.
melody | 2/21/2016 6:02:00 PM
I meet a guy for just a day that i fell inlove with and the place my sister stay that was the same town he also stays when i meet him there i was shook cus i cant help ma sef meen whill he also pretens asif he like me one day he told his friend to tell me he loves me and want to have sex with me. But i really love him not for sex pls help me guys what to do
Vee | 3/31/2016 1:28:00 AM
Don't do it! If he respects you enough he will wait. It's not love! A guy that truly loves you knows they will be around a long time so waiting will not be a problem
unknown | 4/17/2016 11:37:00 PM
really true

I had de same experience
1123 | 5/6/2016 3:27:00 AM
I don't understand this guy I'm talking with he talks about sex alot but he also calls me alot and talks for 3 hours with me ... But we haven't even been out yet and he talking about being my boyfriend joking and kids and house he jokes about but it's weird to me I can't figure him out ... He does show me that he wants something serious also I'm so confused should I even waste my time going out with this guy? Someone please help!! I don't know what to do???
ashim | 6/22/2016 3:53:00 AM
Please get sex with me . Because i am very hungry
Sachin rajput | 6/26/2016 9:09:00 AM
Hii I want this job that's way my contact no 8859146390
Mazza | 8/30/2016 1:36:00 AM
Well what if we only want sex to ha
cj | 9/12/2016 7:29:00 AM
Most men are scum nowadays. You men who lie to get a woman to have sex with you are really the scum of the earth. You think she's not worth it? Actually YOU are the ones not worth it bunch of heartless nasty players!
Anonymous | 9/13/2016 7:25:00 PM
Well said cj
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