Dear Auntie Betty, I am 20 years old and in the final year in a senior secondary school. I have been in a relationship with a certain girl for a year now.
Recently I asked that we put a stop to the relationship in order for us to concentrate on our studies. But the girl has threatened to harm herself if I break up with her.
Auntie, I am very confused and scared.
Dear Sammy, You have taken a very good decision, though you could have saved yourself this trauma if you had heeded advice not to start such relationships now.
Now you see you are unable to handle the problems which come with early relationships.
All the same, I must commend you for taking this bold step to put right what you had done wrong.
Most people use such threats in times like this but don't let that deter you, in future, she will be grateful to you for the break up, since it will give her time to study.
You can confide in a trusted adult (female) whom the girl respects to talk to her. If you have a school counsellor, I think you need to confide in her.