If you want your wife to submit, you've got to learn to submit to some authority. If there is nobody as a man you respect or fear, then there is a problem. A rebellious husband does not deserve a submissive wife. You should be someone your wife can talk to if you are going out of order. If you are going out of order, there should be one name she can mention that gets you to be in place. If there is no one who can talk to you, you are a dangerous man. You are a danger to yourself, your children and everyone around you. There should be someone who can talk to you; your parents or your pastor. There should be one person somewhere who when they mention his or her name, is a father or mother to you; a spiritual father; a guide; somebody who helps you to be in line with the way of God.
Blessed mendo not feel insecure. You have to be a secured man; a man with order to his life. You should be a man who has a prayer life and a focused life; a man who has a life with direction. A blessed man for example, does not build a house without his wife's knowledge. Insecure men abuse their wives. Insecure men abuse their children. Insecure men become a terror to everybody. Insecure men don't know how to carry themselves right. When you do not know how to anchor strength to your life, you cannot know the blessing of God. Insecure men fall apart once things go wrong.
Physical achievement of having children is not a sign that a man is a blessed man or real man. Anybody can father children if he knows what to do. Today, even three year olds do know what to do because all the time, they are on television. Because you fathered a child doesn't make you a father. It is your quality character that does.
Deacon ALBINUS CHIEDU
Coordinator, MARRIAGE CAN WORK PROJECT
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