BITTER TRUTH ON MARRIAGE (Part 9) Sexual Matters

In the church, sex has become a taboo; a word not to be mentioned. Everyone just calls it immorality. But there is tremendous pleasure in sex if it is done within the prescriptions of God. All we need is adequate sexual education. First, we must teach our teenagers and single adults that having sex outside marriage has spiritual and physical dangers such as transfer of success barriers, HIV, unwanted pregnancy, other diseases, single parenthood, etc.

Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge” (Hebrews 13:4KJV)

Let the husband render unto the wife, due benevolence; and likewise also, the wife unto the husband. The wife hat not power of her body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband, hath not power of his own body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt ye not for your incontinency” (1stCorinthians 7:3-5KJV)

So, after sometime, it becomes devastating when a man refuses to approach his wife for sex. The message it sends across to a woman is that she is not beautiful or attractive anymore to him. That destroys a woman's self esteem. It is wickedness on the part of the man. He is expected to as a matter of responsibility, ensure he satisfies his wife sexually. It is however funny that most authors accuse only women of this offence. That is bias.

It is equally terrible for a woman to deny her husband sexual pleasure because of some material reason or no reason. It implies handing the man over to the devil for temptation. The man feels insulted and angry that a woman he paid her bride price at the expense of all beautiful women in the world is denying him as it were, the fruit of his labour.

It is actually possible for married partners to stay off sex for a certain period of time without cheating on each other. It is all about effective communication, true love and understanding. “Sorry darling! Please, we can't do it this night. I am terribly tired. Lets make it so and so date or so and so time. I will make it up.” This could help.

“And unto the married, I command, yet not I but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from the husband: But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife” (1st Corinthians 7:10-11KJV)

“Art thou bound unto a wife? Seek not to be loosed (1st Corinthians 7:27)

Deacon ALBINUS CHIEDU
Coordinator, MARRIAGE CAN WORK Project
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...TO BE CONTINUED (Questions Are Welcome)