I Fear She Will Jilt Me

Dear Nana Ama,

When we met I was a teacher at a training college and she was in first year of a nursing training college.

That was about five years ago. I made my intention of marrying her after our education very clear to her and initially she was all for it.

I have introduced her to my family and they all like her but she has refused to introduce me to her people and anytime I raise it she becomes offended.

Of late she has started disturbing me about the age differences between us saying the five years gap might create problems for us in future and that my decision to pursue a degree programme in the university before settling down with her would not help matters.

Nana I don’t know what has come over my friend and I fear she might jilt me very soon.

I am confused and miserable and I shudder anytime I think about losing her.

Paa Tee, Awoshie

Dear Paa,

Why don’t you have a chat with your lover and let her know about your fears?

She is the best person to give you an idea of what is happening.

You must however, brace yourself for any possible shocks when you begin to probe and find answers.

What I can say, however, is that she appears to be having second thoughts about the relationship with you.

Her complaints about the age gap is just a smokescreen. No matter what happens, remember that life must go on, so don’t allow the relationship to make you veer off the noble path you have chosen.

Do not shelve the idea of pursuing a university education.

Listen to your mind, not your heart, in this matter and remember you cannot force anybody into a relationship.