How Do I keep Her?
Dear Nana Ama,
About five years ago I fell in love with a girl whose guardians -maternal aunt and husband- objected to our relationship.
She left to Sweden on an exchange programme two years ago and has decided to stay on after the course.
We have remained in touch though. She phoned two weeks ago to inform me that she wants us to get married and so I should start planning towards it.
Nana I love her and she perfectly fits into my idea of an ideal woman but I am financially handicapped since I just finished my national service and am now hunting for a job.
What should I do or tell her to ensure that she remains mine?
K. K.Siaw, Sekondi
Dear K.K.,
I don’t think you should rush into marriage with the view to joining your woman in Sweden.
I suspect this is what is enticing you hence your desire to keep her at all cost.
Marriage is more than that. It is a serious union and so decisions concerning it must be done soberly and carefully.
I also wonder if you got to know her well before she travelled.
You need to get to know her better before making any decision about marriage.
Remember her guardians are not too keen on the relationship.
For the time being, I suggest you concentrate on landing a good job for who knows you may change your mind about the type of woman you would like to spend the rest of your life with so there should be no rush.