How To Deal With Infidelity The Smart Way
Infidelity can be dealt with in these three steps:
Step one: This stage in the process is filled with strong emotions – anything from anger, bitterness, and resentment to periods of introspection, self-blame and even appreciation and acknowledgment of what the relationship with your spouse means to you and if you can deal with the issue at hand.
Step two: This period deals less with emotions, and it features the cheated-on spouse trying to understand why the other person cheated. It may feature periods of constantly going over details of the affair. They may retreat physically and emotionally from their spouse and reach out to family and friends for help.
Step three: Mainly relates to couples who want to stay together and work their relationship out.
When infidelity has taken place, and both parties feel ready to re-establish their connection, to an extent it’s fair to say that neither party wants to take responsibility.
Often both halves of the relationship view each other as being selfish, and see themselves as having put their hearts on the line with absolutely zero to show for it.
Why should one half of the partnership say sorry for something that was someone else’s fault in the first place?
Recognize that recovery from infidelity is a lengthy process and an overnight relationship repair won’t happen.
Rebuilding trust is key, but it need not all be negative. Sometimes, when one partner cheats it can be a wake up call, the relationship needs as crazy as that sounds.
Channels of communication should always be left open, and discussions never avoided.
Sometimes relationship counseling can help, with both parties being offered the chance to talk to an open minded, impartial third party, who can mediate between the couple to help sort out long standing issues and problems which may have contributed towards the infidelity in the first place.
Reality is that a relationship can survive infidelity if both partners are committed to making it work and the partner that strayed rededicates themselves to the relationship