Dear Woman, Accepting Love Doesn’t Make You Weak

I once met a young lady who was very beautiful and successful and had many suitors, but she wouldn’t open up to any of them because she felt that if she accepts any man into her life, she will let her guard of being a strong woman down and become weak in her standards.

She was afraid that all the years she used to build up her successful career will be useless if she opens up her heart to a man because he may come in and change everything and probably take away her freedom and independence.

Dear Woman, you can’t live your life out of fear or live life trying to protect yourself from all hurt and disappointment. When you do that, you are trying to be God. Ultimate protection and safety can only be promised by God and offered by Him. You don’t know what will happen to you a minute from now, you can’t tell how your future will certainly turn out except by the word of God and His Spirit. When you try to protect yourself too much, you will end up depriving yourself of the freedom to live without fear and worry.

I am fully for building yourself to the highest standard you can ever attain as a woman. I’m for progressing in your career and having big and great platforms so you can reach other people with the knowledge and wisdom God has blessed you with. I am for being a sharp-edged cutting professional woman who the world run to for ideas and advice as the Prophetess Deborah in the Bible. However, in building all of this, don’t build walls of fear around your progress. Live freely without suspicion or fear that if you allow a man into your life it will erase all your hard earned work.

A strong and wise woman is one who can rise to the top and be a high level powerful woman leader, and can simultaneously relax for a man to love and care for her. A strong woman is one who after all she has been able to achieve can humble herself to receive the love of a man. Now, let’s look at it this way: it is not only a man that if you allow into your life can destroy your hard earned success. That’s a myopic way of looking at life. Some women destroy dreams as fast as any man can do. You can have friends who would criticize you and pull you down and discourage you from excelling out of jealousy. Your walls against love is not because a man will by all means break your achievement, it is because you are afraid, it’s not of God and it’s not freedom.

All your achievements and success is by the grace of God. You must understand it. If your breathe ceases now, there’s no negotiation with anyone except the Giver of life. All you’ve achieved will count for nothing if you are not in a good relationship with Jesus.

So, don’t let your worldly achievements be the reason you limit your heart and look at every love opportunity as a tool to slow you down. Love is an important part of your make up and success. Learning to receive love is not an easy thing, only the strong can actually love freely and allow themselves to be loved.

Stop seeing every man through the lenses of suspicion that they are coming to destroy you or break you or make you weak, that’s bondage. Rather, choose the men that come to you through the lenses of the word and Spirit of the Lord and allow yourself to receive love.

If you’ve ever been treated badly in a relationship or in love, let that go. Learn from your experience and pray that it will become wisdom for you. Not all men are bad. Not all relationships are bad and not all love stories are sad.

There’s a reason why the past experience turned out bad, find it and add unto your knowledge but don’t use that as a yardstick to disqualify everyone that comes along. Certainly, don’t also use that to brand all other people who want to show you love as bad. That’s unfair judgement.

Life can be full of hurts and disappointments and we can’t live our lives trying to avoid them. Some hurts and disappointments come to make us wiser and stronger.

Your past experiences are not to shield you from going into an area of life, but to help you become better the next time that door opens again.

Break free from the fear of past failures, hurts and disappointments and be expectant of better things ahead. Don’t be controlled and limited by fear my dear. Live your life to the fullest, that’s God’s plan for you.