Woman; The Best Way To Solve Misunderstanding With Your Spouse Is Definitely Not Through Entrenchment Battles

Don’t let little misunderstandings destroy your marriage.

One thing I’ve come to appreciate and understand is that marriage just like any other human relationship has misunderstandings and disagreements.

There is no way you can co-habit with a person and never disagree on an issue or not have misunderstanding. Since our backgrounds are different and our appreciation of things are not the same we are bound to have one or two hitches in our marriage relationship. Misunderstandings and disagreements can come in all forms with their open severity. Sometimes even how cold the room should be can become a disagreement.

These things are part of life and we make allowance for them. You need to appreciate and embrace that your husband will not always agree with you, neither will you. If he doesn’t agree with you, it doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you or is going away from you. As you are entitled to your opinions, so is he.

Dear wife, when these issues come up, learn how to let them go. Don’t take things to heart too much. You will hurt your heart and cause bitterness to have a root in your family. We connect with our emotions as women, so most of the time, we are likely to be hurt when things come up. That’s how God created us. There’s nothing wrong with it. It’s been proven scientifically that women are in tune with their emotions more than men. This is the part of us that helps us become mothers and good homemakers. We are naturally concerned with our relationships and family. It’s a positive thing. But the negative of this is what can lead us to destroy our marriage.

Learn how to deal with issues and let it go. Don’t keep things in your heart and brood over it. Speak it out and move on. If you are not a verbal person, write it down for your husband to read or send him a message to that effect. But don’t keep record of wrongs and become bitter about it. Don’t hold on to entrenched positions during a misunderstanding. Sometimes you just need to say ok and let the whole argument come to an end. It won’t take anything away from you. But you would have helped in calming down tempers so you can pick up the discussion at another time.

If you have to seek an opinion, do so with trusted seasoned counselors. And listen to advise. Don’t just pour out your issues on any social media platform you get. You see, not everyone is filled with the Spirit of God. Some advise would seem normal, but it may not help your marriage. Also, you may be on the right track but when a lot of women who don’t know God begin to advise you, you will let go off your good mindset in exchange for ideas from the devil.

Misunderstandings are normal in marriage, but you have to determine to use them to know your partner better and let him also know your better. But never allow these temporal hiccups become entrenched battles to kill your love.