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17 January 2018 | Love & Relationships

What To Do When A Lady Rejects Your Proposal

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No – Not right now
Ok, so she is not ready to get married quite yet. She may be looking at this from two different angles: that it is not the right time in the relationship or it is not the right time in her life.

You could see the latter reason as more positive, perhaps she feels she is too young to get married or maybe she wants to focus on her career for a while. Talk openly about what she wants for herself, what did she have ‘planned’ and how do you fit into those plans? If this is her only concern you should try to talk the matter through and reach a sensible conclusion about where to go from here – you may even win her round and get her to reconsider.

If she thinks the time is not right in the relationship you need to find out why you have differing opinions. She may be concerned that you are not collectively ready emotionally or financially or that you haven’t been together long enough to ‘test’ your compatibility. Through discussion you may discover that you have completely polar outlooks on your relationship – perhaps this is a cue to walk away.

No – I never want to get married
Believe it or not, not all women have been dreaming of their wedding day since they were six. For one reason or another your partner has decided that she does not want to ever get married. Perhaps she disagrees with the institution of marriage; perhaps she comes from a broken home where marriage was not joyous or celebrated. Whatever the reason you may not be able to change her mind. Don’t wait around for something that just isn’t ever going to happen.

If she still wants to be with you in a stable, loving relationship that may have all the trappings of a marriage but without the paperwork then you have to decide what you want. Are you OK with never being a husband? Only you can answer that.

No – I don’t want to marry you
This is probably the hardest reason to hear. Yes, she has always dreamed of getting married, she even has a scrapbook under the bed with magazine clippings and colour swatches; its just that she doesn’t want to marry you. At least you know where you stand with this one and there is normally nothing left to do but go your own separate ways. You should certainly look on the bright side however as now you have all that free time to spend searching for the girl for whom you really will be mister right.

Don’t bottle it up
Whatever the reason for her rejection of your offer, you shouldn’t stay quiet about it and let it get to you. After you have sorted out what path you and your partner are willing to travel – be it together or separately – you should speak to your friends about what has happened. They may have been in similar situations themselves and be full of advice.

Getting turned down is not a cause for embarrassment and you must not feel ashamed or foolish for trying. Yes, it will undoubtedly hurt for some time – a long time perhaps – but you will move on. If you do stay together, who knows maybe she was right in her reasoning and your relationship will go on to be stronger than ever before. If you do break-up know that it was definitely for the best and you should be glad it happened sooner rather than later.

Heck, at least you won’t have to save for a ring again!

quot-img-1NEVER TRUST IN WHAT ONE CAN DO FOR YOU BUT TRUST IN WHAT YOU CAN DO FOR YOUR OWN SELF.

By: AA AFRIFA quot-img-1
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