Signs You Don't Love Yourself

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1. Do you feel like you're always putting yourself second to everyone else's needs? This is a sure sign that you're not loving yourself enough. How are you expected to get where you want in life if you're always putting other people first? It's time to show up for yourself for once. I'm not saying that you should stop helping people, but there's a healthy balance to be found here. Learn to say no once in a while. Remember that every time you say yes to someone else, you're saying no to yourself. Don't be selfish or rude, but recognize that its okay to say no if it's not in your heart.

2. Are you really hard on yourself? Especially when you fail at something? Our inner critic can be a nasty bitch. Pardon my french. Everyone fails from time to time. Let me repeat that again. Every. One. Fails. I could sit here listing the thousands of ways in life that I've failed over the years, but instead of wasting your time, I'll tell you this: Your success is related to how you handle your failures and setbacks. Successful people know that failure is inevitable. Its how you learn to handle failure that sets you apart from the rest. You can't wallow and get down on yourself every time you fail, or you simply won't get anywhere. So, focus on the positive. It's just a mistake. We all make them. If you find that you're often hard on yourself, ease up a little. It's just life after all.

3. Do you weigh your self-worth on your body image? With constant pressure from the media, the need to look or be perfect is outrageous these days. I'd be lying if I said that I haven't succumbed to the enormous pressure from society in the past. I have. Having gone through my share of obsession with caloric intake, makeup, and overall appearance, I would like to help you too. Know this: it doesn't have to be this way. You do not have to be obsessed with your appearance. Know from the bottom of your heart that you are worth so much more than:

-The number on the scale
-The face in the mirror
-The clothes you wear
-The colour of your skin
-The thickness of your hair
-The size of your muscles
You are. And it's high time you started to believe it, too. Don't let anyone convince you otherwise.

1. Are you constantly comparing yourself to others? Especially now-a-days with Facebook and Instagram, we are constantly bombarded with pictures of people holding hands, smiling, laughing, jumping on a beach, seemingly having the perfect lives. The truth is, people only put out what they want people to see. Everyone out there (even the people whose lives seem perfect) are fighting their own battles. Every picture is meant to be flattering so it serves their ego. Otherwise Facebook would be filled with pictures of people eating cheesies in their bed watching Netflix. But that hardly makes their lives seem adventurous and happy. Don't compare your life to other people's lives. Ever. The truth is, you know nothing about a lot of these people's lives and a lot of them may not even be happy. Comparing your life to others only makes you feel inadequate and does not serve you any good. Just stay focused on loving your life.
2. Are you honest with your emotions? Do you take responsibility for your emotions or are you constantly playing the blame game? It is okay to be angry, upset, or sad. Once you recognize that it is just an emotion, you can learn to sit with it, feel what needs to be felt and move on. This is really important in learning how to love yourself. Allow yourself to feel. Ignoring your emotions may be a sign that you're not loving yourself enough.
3. Can you forgive yourself? Like mentioned earlier, we all make mistakes. Learn to forgive yourself so you can move on from them. Forgiveness is the key to letting go. Until you forgive yourself for your mistakes, you will not be able to move forward. Forgiveness is simply making peace with where you are. It's a very important step in truly loving yourself.

1. Do you weigh your self-worth on your body image? With constant pressure from the media, the need to look or be perfect is outrageous these days. I'd be lying if I said that I haven't succumbed to the enormous pressure from society in the past. I have. Having gone through my share of obsession with caloric intake, makeup, and overall appearance, I would like to help you too. Know this: it doesn't have to be this way. You do not have to be obsessed with your appearance. Know from the bottom of your heart that you are worth so much more than:

   -The number on the scale
   
   -The face in the mirror
   
   -The clothes you wear
   
   -The colour of your skin
   
   -The thickness of your hair
   
   -The size of your muscles
   
   You are. And it's high time you started to believe it, too. Don't let anyone convince you otherwise.



2. Are you constantly comparing yourself to others? Especially now-a-days with Facebook and Instagram, we are constantly bombarded with pictures of people holding hands, smiling, laughing, jumping on a beach, seemingly having the perfect lives. The truth is, people only put out what they want people to see. Everyone out there (even the people whose lives seem perfect) are fighting their own battles. Every picture is meant to be flattering so it serves their ego. Otherwise Facebook would be filled with pictures of people eating cheesies in their bed watching Netflix. But that hardly makes their lives seem adventurous and happy. Don't compare your life to other people's lives. Ever. The truth is, you know nothing about a lot of these people's lives and a lot of them may not even be happy. Comparing your life to others only makes you feel inadequate and does not serve you any good. Just stay focused on loving your life.



3. Are you honest with your emotions? Do you take responsibility for your emotions or are you constantly playing the blame game? It is okay to be angry, upset, or sad. Once you recognize that it is just an emotion, you can learn to sit with it, feel what needs to be felt and move on. This is really important in learning how to love yourself. Allow yourself to feel. Ignoring your emotions may be a sign that you're not loving yourself enough.



4. Can you forgive yourself? Like mentioned earlier, we all make mistakes. Learn to forgive yourself so you can move on from them. Forgiveness is the key to letting go. Until you forgive yourself for your mistakes, you will not be able to move forward. Forgiveness is simply making peace with where you are. It's a very important step in truly loving yourself.