Why Polygamy?

I'm writing to inform you that hell has broken loose in Wofa Kwesi's home. Ever since he told his wife, Eno Mansa of his intention to take a second wife, he has known no 'asomdwe'. In fact, the invectives she poured on him last weekend were such that he almost sent her packing.

Thanks to 'Onyankopon', at least there is a semblance of 'asomdwe' in his home now.

I say semblance of 'asomdwe' because Eno Mansa has threatened to tell the whole 'ewiase' a secret he has been hiding for about a decade, if he dares to bring his intention to fruition. He has also threatened to send her to the land of 'samanfo' if she reveals that secret.

Frankly speaking, I'm telling you this 'nkomo' so you can act to avert a looming calamity. That is why I don't mind being called the most dedicated disciple of 'konkonsa'.

Let me pause here and ask, is it because Wofa Kwesi is now an 'osikani', courtesy of lotto, that is why he wants another wife? Or is it that he is tired of eating the same food so he wants to add some variety to his menu?

These questions and more led me to the question, why polygamy [one abrantie, many wives], and not monogamy [one abrantie, one wife]?

Abusuapanin, monogamy is the preferred system for most nations on this planet. Supporters of this system argue that it is the only just and civilized form of marriage which protects the real needs of 'nketesia'. They further argue that polygamy breeds disunity among members of the 'abusua'.

They even say that, if polygamy is to be supported, then 'nketesia' too should have the right to marry as many 'mrantie' as they want; because what is good for the goose is also good for the gander.

Those who oppose monogamy, however, contend that in an 'ewiase' where the population of 'nketesia' is greater than that of 'mrantie', the 'barima', under the guise of monogamy indulges in extra-marital affairs without any responsibility.

They sometimes refer to the 'clintonisation' of Monica Lewinsky, which nearly brought Clinton's rule to an abrupt end.

The pro-polygamists further argue that it is to guard against such extramarital relationships that 'kramosom' endorsed polygamy with conditions. In other words, though a bitter pill for many 'nketesia', polygamy is a necessary tool for curbing fornication and prostitution.

Abusuapanin, after listening to the various arguments for and against polygamy, I am sure you are as confused as I am. But despite being in a confused state, I wouldn't hesitate to submit an opinion.

If monogamy is to be supported, what would be the fate of the remaining 'nketesia' who wouldn't get any 'mrantie' to marry?

Perhaps, a study of the number of bastards in the 'ewiase' presently would give us a fair idea of the harm monogamy is causing to the sons of Adam and daughters of Eve.

To the pro-polygamist, I say, “if you study the Quranic verse that permits polygamy very well, then you wouldn't dare to practice it: 'Marry the number of 'nketesia' that pleases you; two, three or four. But if you fear that you cannot be JUST [caps mine], marry only one'.” Chapter of 'Nketesia' - Quran 4:3.

Abusuapanin, after about fifteen years of marriage to Eno Abena without any 'akolaa', don't you think it is time you started considering taking a second wife? Oh sorry, I've forgotten that you've warned me not to poke my nose into other people's affairs! Please forgive me.

Till I see you again, please do whatever you can to make Wofa Kwesi and his wife smoke the peace pipe. I shudder to imagine his reaction, should his wife reveal the 'secret'.
See you soon!

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