Why you have complaining tendency?...a HR message

Some people are always complaining in nature, highly short tempered and would complain either about people, situation or other odd things. They cannot remain without complaining or yelling. Problems of the subordinates and employees of such ‘always complaining people’ if they are either owners or bosses is unimaginable.

The question of why some people are born with complaining instinct? It cannot be seen as lack of confidence as reason for such people who exhibit complaining temperament especially when they are either the bosses or owners of the organizations.

Reason for the people to become so has its origin from evolution. Every cell in our body are not only made to perform certain specific duties, but are also made to alert the entire system when they encounter a danger. When they encounter a danger, generally the cell (s) tries to fix and neutralize them and only when they failed to do so, send several warnings before they die. Apoptosis is one such example.

The message is that even the individual cells in us are made to alert the system, in other words, complain to the system about the danger. They resort to complain only because they could not fix or neutralize the danger and hence alert the entire system to about the danger to safeguard it.

But in corporate, the people who frequently engaged in complaining never even attempt to analyze the root cause of their complaints or ever would attempts to correct the anomaly. This is because such people do not have any specific function or purpose to accomplish. Hence they assume mere complaining to be their main duty.

The problem is not with such people. The designation and decision making power of such people who have the instinct of complaining only make things bad to worse. When people have enormous decision making powers and such people when engaged in complaining either about their people or situation, they cause an obnoxious culture in the organization. Instead of enjoy working in the organization the people would get enraged with the organization because of such leaders.

Some people after seeing the ‘always complaining bosses’ would pick up the same trait and would start complaining about people to their bosses. Unfortunately, the bosses would encourage such people because they believe that such people are providing a lot of information about people in the organization. The bosses would consider such complaining employee to be as responsible spy and an asset to the organization.

Creative imagination and not complaining temperament is required for the top leaders.

If you have complaining temperament and you are the ultimate boss, accept the truth that you are unfit for the role. Identify a specific role for you and limit within, so that you can easily overcome the complaining nature. Otherwise you would destroy the organization.

Dr. S Ranganathan, ClinRise Derma Pvt., Ltd., Chennai