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5 ways to a great marriage

By totalfamilylife.com
Love & Relationships family happy
JUL 18, 2014 LISTEN
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(1). SPIRITUAL WELL-BEING: Couple must be children of God, devoted to God in all ways, make Bible their authority and totally submitted to its ordinance. They are men and women of prayer. They don't joke with prayer; prayer and fasting are their ways of life. They allow God in their homes and give Him the leadership role. Once the presence of God is missing in a marriage, devil will be at the driver's seat driving such homes into stormy water. Couple must secured the presence of God and the peace of God with other heavenly benefits reign supreme in their homes.

(2).       COMMITMENT: Commitment is a state of being willing to give a lot of time, energy and resources to one's spouse. Commitment is being there for him/her when there's every reason not to. It also means to be committed to one's spouse to defend and protect.

Successful couples are dedicated to promoting each other's welfare and happiness. They focused their home and are committed to their marriage vows. They made their marriages a top priority with respect to how they invest their time and energy on their homes. There's no marriage without its own challenges but commitment enables them to weather the storms. No marriage, no matter how good it seems can be successful without the commitment of the parties involved. Without commitment, marriage will be in danger. Marriage is not a Sprint, it is a marathon race, it needs stamina, courage and commitment to make it a success.

(3).     POSITIVE COMMUNICATION: It takes a spark to set a house on fire. Careless spoken words can wreck the boat of any marriage. That is why H. Norman Wright in his book, Communication, the key to your marriage said “each person must be responsible for his own tongue- training programme. Controlling the tongue needs to be a continuing aim for every husband and wife because everything that is said either helps or hinders, heals or hurts, build up or tears down the home. Husbands or wives who enjoys strong fulfilling marriage relationship have good communication skills, spending much time saying positive words, sending positive messages and signals.

Try as much as possible to avoid negative communication like “I hate you”, “I regret marrying you”, “you are a fool”, “you are an idiot” etc. But make use of positive communication like “I love you”, “you are beautiful”, “you are unique”, “I am fortunate to be your husband/wife” etc. Negative communication will bring frustration and sorrow into your home while positive communication will draw you closer to your spouse in love. So, train your tongue to utter positive words concerning your spouse. “As ye have therefore received Christ Jesus the Lord; so walk ye in Him”.

(5).      FORGIVENESS: Forgiveness is a strong pillar of a successful marriage since we cannot but offend each other. Couples that cannot forgive each other cannot build virile homes. Forgiveness reduces tension from homes, removes strain from marriage. It paves way for intimacy. So, make up your mind to forgive your spouse no matter what he/she do to you. Forgiveness helps to stop the cycle of evil and shut the devil completely out of the home.

(6). ACCEPTANCE: No marriage can be successful if the parties involved do not accept each other. Lack of acceptance will lead to comparison, condemnation, complaint and rejection. If your wife is fat, she is not too fat, if she is slim; she is not too slim, accept your husband as God created him. Stop comparing him with anybody; do not expect your spouse to be like somebody else. Accept each other.

 
Bisi adewale is an international conference speaker on marriage and family life, the author of these best selling books: Secrets of an Irresistible Wife , Hot and Sizzling Marriage , 20 Highways to a successful  Marriage , Before you say I Do , and more than 60 other best selling books on marriage and family life.

He is the president of Family Booster Ministry and College of Marital Success (CMS) (Africa's Premier Marriage Institute), Host of Family Booster Moments on TV, watched in many countries across the globe.

Bisi Adewale also hosts the popular Lagos Couples' Conference and breakthrough for singles' summit

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