How to marry again after two Divorces
6/27/2011 4:58:39 PM -
If you are asking yourself how to marry again after two divorces, the answer is, very carefully. The divorce rate for first marriages is soaring. That hasn't deterred celebrities, such as Tom Cruise and Rod Stewart, from tying the knot a third time. If you want a third marriage to last, marry for love rather than settling for someone because you are lonely, recommends George B. Blake in "Married Again: Making the Right Decision the Next Time."
Study your first and second marriages to figure out what went wrong, to make sure you aren't marrying before you should and for the wrong reasons, suggests Edward M. Tauber, who runs a divorce recovery program in California, in "Finding the Right One After Divorce: Avoiding the 13 Common Mistakes People Make in Remarriage." Ask yourself if you are just trying to stop the dating game, trying to jump-start your life or show your ex you can find someone else.
Pay for the third wedding yourselves, without asking a penny from family members, The Knot wedding planning site advises.
Bite your lip if family members express doubt about the marriage. They'll come around in time if you prove them wrong, according to The Knot.
Invite everyone you'd like to your wedding. Write on your invitations, "Your presence is your present," if you are uncomfortable implying that a third gift is expected. You can have any size wedding you like, from small to large, according to Women's Digest website, and don't worry if the bride's or groom's side of the wedding party is larger.
Don't wear an all-white dress; off-cream or pastel are better, party planner Carol Deason, owner of Etiquette and Tea in St. Augustine, Florida, told Women's Digest. You can wear a nice wedding dress, even one with a train, as part of your third wedding, says Rebecca Black, consultant at Etiquette Now. The choice is yours.
Involve the children of the bride and groom in the ceremony, counsels Susan D. Brandenburg, writing for Women's Digest. Even children older than 21-years need to feel a part of the new family being formed.