Anytime, I sit down thinking about myself, I smile, I laugh and I become happy. I feel a sense of pride in me. I feel I have made it great, I feel I am the best person and I think I will be the best for somebody one day.
What brought this sense of happiness? My Virginity, it make me feel special. Being a virgin at the age of 22 is a great honour but difficult to fulfill. Being a virgin at this 21st Century may seem weird or odd but to the owner it is the greatest thing that you may ever happen to you.
Why am I still a Virgin at this age?
My story; it all started when i was 13 years old at J. H. S. 2, i was attending girls school. At that time i was the youngest in the class but very intelligent. Being in class with older girls, and almost all my friends were above 16 years old it was hectic and fun as well. They know about everything on this earth, so I always follow them timidly to know everything too.
During sports time, we normally go to our partner school boys' school precisely to socialize and to learn more from them as well. At age 13, the number of issues that I had in my mind about relationship and sex was enough to destroy the brains. I was always happy following my friends around everywhere they go. My friends go about eating, watching movies and taking pictures with guys . Luckily for me I was a shy person, so i enjoy watching people having fun, but involving myself was some how a problem to me, however, my friends promise me to make me behave like them .
One day, the unfortunate thing happened, my other 2 friends and I went to a guy's room near our school, to watch movies, the guy's room was one of those local boy's room so we remove our sandals outside and so while watching the movie, my daddy took my sandals away without my knowledge. i search and search but i couldn't find it and I can't borrow anybody's footwear to the house it will be a rape case in Coco Affairs. So i have to walk home bare footed. When i got home nobody cares to know why I walked home bare footed and i was happy because that was my prayer.
The following day I took one of my Christmas shoes to school, and since it was Friday, the usual things for my friends was to go and take pictures so I followed them, and when we got to a friends room to change, my Chrismas shoes got lost again, I weep like a baby, because I really love those shoes. But this time when I got home and nobody ask why I was crying I got angry and sad, and started complaining to my sister.
On the following day, my daddy called me and interrogates me about my lost footwear but I lied that it was stolen in school. Surprisingly, my lovely Dad entered his room and brought me my lost footwear, I become, astonish and started sharing crocodile tears, but my Dad rather wipe my face and comforted me instead of slapping me. When I stop crying, he told me that, he was monitoring me, and he was the one who picked my shoes, he explained to me that, the footwear is the protective cloth around our legs to prevent us from harm, and if the footwear is taking, that means you don't have powers again, so that is why if our fathers wants to destooled a chief they take the footwears off. He also said at my age walking barefooted is disgraced, so those who are mad and are on the rubbish heap don't wear footwear. He said virginity is the only thing that I can boast of to my husband oneday and so if I loosed at this age that means am walking disgracefully without a footwear, he said, I can't boast of a good job because is common, I can't boast of my muscles because am not suppose to fight with my husband, lastly I can't boast of money because it will be of no use to a well educated man.
He asked me to preserve my virginity, which I should boast of to my husband one day.
One thing that, still triggers my mind was, that, he said, "My daughter you are slender and beautiful, if men grab you, they will take you like a ripe orange, squeeze the juice out of you and throw you away, then you will become a second hand"
My dad words, still lingers my mind every blessed day, however since then, my dad and I became closed friends, my dad promise me that dad, if I don't hurt him he will continue to be a friend to me and promise to do everything that I want or need on this earth, and I also told him that I will never hurt him by maintaining my virginity until I get married.
Since then, people always call me daddy's pet, I follow him wherever he goes, and he always does everything I asked him to do. My Dad and I were too close to be a father and child, my drawing closer to my father has change many things in my life, it has change my way of thinking, he even knows about my relationship when I was dating.
I owe three people a promise about my virginity, My God, My self and My father. Fellow fathers draw your daughters closer to you when they are very tender and they will always do what you want. A virgin @ 22 is a Pride, Dignity and Respect. When you are a virgin before you get married, the level of faithfulness and Trust is very high. Be a Virgin and a enjoy your inner self.
Shallom Lumor
Ghana Institute of Journalism
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